[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Where does it say that? And where does it say that they would raise the child when these too inevitably die, it's pure selfishness imo



Until they die though and where does that leave the child? parent less

Agreed,however also that is something no one really knows, when someone will die.

Children lose Mothers and Fathers to cancer and other illnesses for instance often at very young ages.
It is also possible these Parents may live to into their 80s or beyond even, then this child will be a adult anyway.

Sometimes even a few years with loving parents is better than a lifetime with bad parents and it must be the case that this Lady wanted this child.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

Agreed,however also that is something no one really knows, when someone will die.

Children lose Mothers and Fathers to cancer and other illnesses for instance often at very young ages.
It is also possible these Parents may live to into their 80s or beyond even, then this child will be a adult anyway.

Sometimes even a few years with loving parents is better than a lifetime with bad parents and it must be the case that this Lady wanted this child.

Well the father is 79 now so he would 97 (or more than likely dead) when the child is 18

ETA : And yes children can lose parents to cancer etc, that's unfortunate but nobody can predict circumstances like that. What you can predict though is that a couple in their 70's are A - Unlikely to make it through the childs childhood and B will more than likeliy struggle to look after a baby/toddler.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Well the father is 79 now so he would 97 (or more than likely dead) when the child is 18

ETA : And yes children can lose parents to cancer etc, that's unfortunate but nobody can predict circumstances like that. What you can predict though is that a couple in their 70's are A - Unlikely to make it through the childs childhood and B will more than likeliy struggle to look after a baby/toddler.

All valid points.

The only points I would add is these 2 people could well live into their 80s or even 90s.
There are no guarantees they won't or will admittedly.

Also we don't know how fit and well these 2 people are either,one would expect good medical checks will have been done as to both as potential Parents.

You are getting there with me however Niamh,thinking more deeply about it myself, I would not probably like to have Parents of those ages.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

All valid points.

The only points I would add is these 2 people could well live into their 80s or even 90s.
There are no guarantees they won't or will admittedly.

Also we don't know how fit and well these 2 people are either,one would expect good medical checks will have been done as to both as potential Parents.

I'm not trying to be ageist or tell people what they can or can't do but I think the child should be the main focus here and not the parents, it's terrible that this woman couldn't have a child on her own and I feel bad for her but what she and her husband has done, imo is put their needs above what is good for the child that they've brought into the world

No one can predict what age this couple will live till but since the average life expectancy in India is 67, it seems very very likely they won't live through this childs childhood and that's selfish plain and simple.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm not trying to be ageist or tell people what they can or can't do but I think the child should be the main focus here and not the parents, it's terrible that this woman couldn't have a child on her own and I feel bad for her but what she and her husband has done, imo is put their needs above what is good for the child that they've brought into the world

No one can predict what age this couple will live till but since the average life expectancy in India is 67, it seems very very likely they won't live through this childs childhood and that's selfish plain and simple.

Very strong points.

[Cherie]

I agree with Niamh on this, having a baby at 70 plus for either a male or a female is selfish. Anyone who has had a child can confirm the crushing tiredness that comes with coping with a newborn, not to mention a toddler, I can understand the desperate need for a child but could they not have adopted and given a child a loving and secure home in their early years