[Maru]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I recall back in the day at school, a 16yr old student became pregnant and the father was one of the teachers...a 27/28yr old if I recall correctly...he carried on teaching and teaching at the school...but it was actually quite hard to feel the same sense of 'safety' there..from a pupil's perspective..?...and I know that many/most young people felt the same as well because obviously, it was all the subject of huge discussions etc...I can't imagine in that scenario now, it ever being that he would have still carried on teaching at the school.../that's why policies are in place now, which wouldn't have been the..and indeed in the workplace as well....some very dodgy bosses and superiors and huge abuses of positions....

It was in the same when I was in school. At least among the girls, we were frigid towards any authority figures we thought might be big time perverts... it's something we would warn each other about, if we felt something was off. Some are genuinely predators that pick and choose based on who they can manipulate. There was a local police officer (legit police, on campus) in my HS who would let cheerleaders hang out with him in the office and skip class... after he was arrested, they said some things that sounded like he was trying to buy them off. Gifts and other weird things like that. They caught him for child pornography on a PC in his office... same girls posted on FB about how weird he was, didn't see it coming, etc...though I thought that was dumb because it was fairly obvious how inappropriate it was and that he was more than willing to cross certain lines (especially with where his eye contact went). My school had 3,000 students and I have no idea how but it went on for years unnoticed but from what I heard, reported.

I think at least in our culture, it creates too many complications for student's lives who are still not even finished with high school. Like an 18 year old dating a student may technically be legal, but it's not appropriate. There's just too many insecurities and distractions going on with school... it wouldn't be a healthy and unequal relationship anyway. College is more of a grey area. If you're not taking a course by the professor, then I guess it is OK... I would think it's more consensual at that point, especially if they are close in age. Though I think most places don't allow it in their books... a lot of workplaces have rules like that, but they're not always strictly enforced...