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Originally Posted by Ammi

....hmmmm, I'm just going to try to break this down a bit....I haven't experienced things that you have CeeCee and experienced the prejudices that you have and you always make me think about stuff that I hadn't thought about so much...but I don't know, maybe I'm over-thinking and I am obviously aware that prejudice against skin colour exists...but hmmm, how am I trying to explain this..if for instance you say...when you see a black girl with attitude, don't judge/be quick to judge..?...well, I probably wouldn't anyway, just knee-jerk judge anyone 'with attitude' because it's just not generally how my thought processes work, I would probably tend to think there must be a reason for that 'attitude' and for their defensiveness...(I'd probably also think, did I say/do something that I wasn't aware of that had offended..)...anyways though, we're all different aren't we and some would judge someone else who appeared to have attitude for what to them would appear to be no reason, but that's it though..they would judge anyone with that attitude no matter what the skin colour because it's the attitude without cause..(so it would be seeming to them..)...that they would be judging and not the skin colour of the person with it...?...and then because by the by that girl is a black girl, it goes around and around that a black girl is being judged for an attitude that she has built up through time and her own life experiences...so almost like self prophesising a need to feel defensive..?....I mean just generally 'having an attitude' in character is only going to bring negative judgement because it would whoever that person was but because she would be black, she would probably be factoring in something that (for some people she had attitude with...)...wouldn't apply...if she did feel a definite prejudice toward her though from someone specifically, then yeah...attitude away girl or confront them on their prejudice or etc...



...the same with...it's ok for a black guy to date a white girl but the other way around it would be judged differently..?..there again though I completely bow to your knowledge and experiences and there is certainly judgement in the comments in the vid but those are surely individual comments and saying something about an individual rather than a 'general black guy' type thing..I mean in all of our worlds, what's good for the male is sometimes not good for the female.../we just have to look at something like Big Brother to see that.../how a female, any female is judged much more harshly and in a way that males aren't for their general relationship and sexual behaviour...


..I mean I totally agree with you about the vid and the comments and that there is prejudice in some but I guess what I'm trying to say is that in any colour and in any world, how much has to also be put down to general being an idiot in character of individuals..it's kind of taking each individual thing for me I guess and some things will be prejudice against skin colour without question but some won't, they'll be more prejudicing against gender and sexism...and if 'black' is factored in when it didn't apply then does it not just contribute to a prejudice...


...ughhh, I'm useless at getting thoughts straight in my head in the mornings but hopefully that makes a little bit of sense...

Trust me it's not just an individual thing under the video. It's an everyday thing black women go through and there are tons of forums where black women are discussing this. I just read a thread called ''I'm beginning to hate black men'' where these were discussed at length and this was before this video.

''the same with...it's ok for a black guy to date a white girl but the other way around it would be judged differently..?'' yes unfortunately that's the way some black guys think, which I don't understand but they think like this. Black girls with white guys are called bend wenches and all sorts. And the favorite ''black women are at the bottom of the barell and you're just a fetish'' I suppose black men feel like being in an interracial relationship makes them feel special and they're somehow think that it makes them better than their race (it doesn't) so it's a blow when a black woman is doing the same. I see black women and men arguing back and forth and it's always the lady saying who you date doesn't make you special get over it. You're just dating a human. Then the black men goes into the myth that all of them have BBC and that's why they're preferred...sigh...my head... literally the same arguments from them. It's a lengthy complicated subject.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

Trust me it's not just an individual thing under the video. It's an everyday thing black women go through and there are tons of forums where black women are discussing this. I just read a thread called ''I'm beginning to hate black men'' where these were discussed at length and this was before this video.

''the same with...it's ok for a black guy to date a white girl but the other way around it would be judged differently..?'' yes unfortunately that's the way some black guys think, which I don't understand but they think like this. Black girls with white guys are called bend wenches and all sorts. And the favorite ''black women are at the bottom of the barell and you're just a fetish'' I suppose black men feel like being in an interracial relationship makes them feel special and they're somehow think that it makes them better than their race (it doesn't) so it's a blow when a black woman is doing the same. I see black women and men arguing back and forth and it's always the lady saying who you date doesn't make you special get over it. You're just dating a human. Then the black men goes into the myth that all of them have BBC and that's why they're preferred...sigh...my head... literally the same arguments from them. It's a lengthy complicated subject.

...yeah I can see that it's complicated CeeCee, I haven't got time today with work today but I'm going to have a google for some sites../forums when I have more time and look at some discussions to try to get a better insight../perspective because I think that I'm very limited on this with my thoughts atm...

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Originally Posted by Ammi

...yeah I can see that it's complicated CeeCee, I haven't got time today with work today but I'm going to have a google for some sites../forums when I have more time and look at some discussions to try to get a better insight../perspective because I think that I'm very limited on this with my thoughts atm...

Don't it's nasty. Let us battle it out

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RIP

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