[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Definitely and it's an idea that needs to be stamped out, I don't want my son growing up thinking he can't talk about how he's feeling etc to go all corny "A problem shared, is a problem halved......

This brings me back to the conversation I had yesterday. Do we subconsciously teach our children to mask their vulnerabilities. I'll give you an example...

...When I was little, my parents really molly coddled me. They thought I was perfect, they told everyone I was perfect and of course, being perfect, quickly rubbed off on me!. The problem with that is, the outside world quickly taught me that I was anything but perfect and I spent my childhood not wanting my parents to know that. I worried about my looks, my figure, my academic struggles but I didn't want to share any of those worries with my parents because, deep in my subconscious I believed their expectations of me would be dashed.

Instead of letting our children believe that we think they are perfect, we need to let them know that as human beings, they can't be perfect because every human being is hard wired to struggle. We should be letting them know that they don't need to be perfect but they will always be worthy of love and belonging.