[Livia]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Very well said Livia.

Of course male allys is a good thing. But men trying to basically...take over and tell women they are doing feminism wrong, well...thats a bit not good.

And so many men cannot help but dominate a conversation. Its socialized into them. Thats not an insult as socialization is extremely hard to fight (I have tried and failed many many times) so men being socialized to dominate and be strong, while women are socialized to be 'nice' and put others first..well its not a good combination is it...

I have another theory, and I know this will be a bit unpopular and it is slightly off-topic, but here goes...

Whenever I've met a transsexual person, or see them on TV, I've been struck by how much less dramatic and loud the female to male transsexuals are. You really don't see them in the press, demanding their rights, crying "I'm a REAL man!". Male to female transsexuals, however, have been men all their lives and they are used to standing up and saying, right, this is what I think and you're going to listen.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Livia

I have another theory, and I know this will be a bit unpopular and it is slightly off-topic, but here goes...

Whenever I've met a transsexual person, or see them on TV, I've been struck by how much less dramatic and loud the female to male transsexuals are. You really don't see them in the press, demanding their rights, crying "I'm a REAL man!". Male to female transsexuals, however, have been men all their lives and they are used to standing up and saying, right, this is what I think and you're going to listen.

Which isn't a bad thing at all of course but young girls should be socialised the same way to feel like their voice is important

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Which isn't a bad thing at all of course but young girls should be socialised the same way to feel like their voice is important

Yes, absolutely they should.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Which isn't a bad thing at all of course but young girls should be socialised the same way to feel like their voice is important

You have hit the nail on the head Niamh.

My mother was an absolute nightmare, but she would never be dictated to, by any man (or woman for that matter), we were all brought up in the same stance.
Respect authority but remember you are everyone's equal.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by smudgie

You have hit the nail on the head Niamh.

My mother was an absolute nightmare, but she would never be dictated to, by any man (or woman for that matter), we were all brought up in the same stance.
Respect authority but remember you are everyone's equal.

I think for me, having 3 brothers and being the only girl helped with this, I'd be damned if I was going to allow myself to be treated differently to them

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Livia

I have another theory, and I know this will be a bit unpopular and it is slightly off-topic, but here goes...

Whenever I've met a transsexual person, or see them on TV, I've been struck by how much less dramatic and loud the female to male transsexuals are. You really don't see them in the press, demanding their rights, crying "I'm a REAL man!". Male to female transsexuals, however, have been men all their lives and they are used to standing up and saying, right, this is what I think and you're going to listen.

Yes. I have said this for a very long time now. The socialization is so obvious. You do not see transmen demanding entry into male areas, you see no transmen winning awards and such...transmen are basically invisible whilst transwomen are at the forefront screaming about unfairness and demanding everyone else buy into their religion.

Actually a bulk of transactivism comes across extremely MRA like to me too. And MRA types like to attach themselves to transactivism for obvious reasons. If it becomes law that any man is a woman, then thats all womens rights gone in one swoop. Part of the reason I am so against it. I kind of see a lot of transactivism as a fightback against women getting more equal. Its backlash, and the MRAs love it. Obviously not all transactivists are MRAs, but there is so much crossover its impossible to ignore.

Look...once I saw it I could not unsee it tbh

Spoiler:

Not all transactivists are like that obviously, but a hell of a lot are. These tend to be the same ones who believe in 'lady penis' and don't actually alter their bodies in any way, the ones who say that sex dysphoria is not needed to be trans...the more mental ones. They come across exactly like MRAs to me. Seems that some men have found a way to pushback against women getting equal. And its genius really..to attach yourself to a group of people who do generally require support and understanding.

I first started to think along these lines when a member here, thetruth, was adamant that in a story about the 'first female on the frontline' (which was a male...who had completed training as a male then suddenly decided they were actually a woman. At this time, women could not actually serve o n the frontline as the training to allow them to was still underway) the person was absolutely a woman. It rang alarm bells for me. And since, its cemented even more.

Theres also the bastardization of the word 'intersectional' and the constant demands to centre transwomen in feminism. Its demanding that male people be centred in feminism. Really.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Yes. I have said this for a very long time now. The socialization is so obvious. You do not see transmen demanding entry into male areas, you see no transmen winning awards and such...transmen are basically invisible whilst transwomen are at the forefront screaming about unfairness and demanding everyone else buy into their religion.

Actually a bulk of transactivism comes across extremely MRA like to me too. And MRA types like to attach themselves to transactivism for obvious reasons. If it becomes law that any man is a woman, then thats all womens rights gone in one swoop. Part of the reason I am so against it. I kind of see a lot of transactivism as a fightback against women getting more equal. Its backlash, and the MRAs love it. Obviously not all transactivists are MRAs, but there is so much crossover its impossible to ignore.

Look...once I saw it I could not unsee it tbh

Spoiler:

Not all transactivists are like that obviously, but a hell of a lot are. These tend to be the same ones who believe in 'lady penis' and don't actually alter their bodies in any way, the ones who say that sex dysphoria is not needed to be trans...the more mental ones. They come across exactly like MRAs to me. Seems that some men have found a way to pushback against women getting equal. And its genius really..to attach yourself to a group of people who do generally require support and understanding.

I first started to think along these lines when a member here, thetruth, was adamant that in a story about the 'first female on the frontline' (which was a male...who had completed training as a male then suddenly decided they were actually a woman. At this time, women could not actually serve o n the frontline as the training to allow them to was still underway) the person was absolutely a woman. It rang alarm bells for me. And since, its cemented even more.

Thanks Vicky, now I can never unsee that either LOL...

I'm in total agreement with you on this issue. And yes, the last paragraph... how are women supposed to react to someone who's always been a man, still has a penis, decides he's now a woman and hey presto! He's suddenly declared the first woman on the Front Line. Meanwhile born women are still jumping through the hoops that men have set up, in order to even try to get as far as the front line.

[Brillopad]

Originally Posted by Livia

Thanks Vicky, now I can never unsee that either LOL...

I'm in total agreement with you on this issue. And yes, the last paragraph... how are women supposed to react to someone who's always been a man, still has a penis, decides he's now a woman and hey presto! He's suddenly declared the first woman on the Front Line. Meanwhile born women are still jumping through the hoops that men have set up, in order to even try to get as far as the front line.

Ridiculous is not a strong enough word. Men and women really need to be analysing why this is so rather than just listening to those that shout the loudest.

It seems to me that women are being discriminated against not only by straight men but transwomen too. Beyond reasoning.

[Brillopad]

Originally Posted by Livia

I have another theory, and I know this will be a bit unpopular and it is slightly off-topic, but here goes...

Whenever I've met a transsexual person, or see them on TV, I've been struck by how much less dramatic and loud the female to male transsexuals are. You really don't see them in the press, demanding their rights, crying "I'm a REAL man!". Male to female transsexuals, however, have been men all their lives and they are used to standing up and saying, right, this is what I think and you're going to listen.

A very good point.