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Originally Posted by AnnieK

My nan has Alzheimer's and in a way she is the happiest she has ever been. She lost my mum, her only daughter and then her partner quite soon after which would have been devastating to anyone but because of her illness she doesn't really know the extent of the sadness.

I remember my other nan before she died said she would have preferred dementia to the physical disabilities she had, she always said she had an 18 year old mind trapped in a body that no longer worked and the frustration and anger she felt contributed to her ultimate death.

Aging, however it happens is awful. Hard for the person and hard for loved ones to watch.

Hopefully Barbara can manage the symptoms for a long time to come.

It's a horrible disease, because the person knows they should be remembering things but just can''t

I actually saw the reverse of your nan's situation. Where a man had Alzheimer's and during the period of deterioration his wife died. From that point forward he kept asking why his wife hadn't come to visit him, and his son told him repeatedly that she had died , so he experienced the grief multiple times. I've no idea why the son chose to answer him because he would have forgotten he had asked the question a few minutes later. I found it quite disturbing and distressing