[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm torn by this tbh, I know it's legal and all but I can't help thinking about if it was my daughter and I think I would be livid at the man. I know 18 is technically an adult and maybe in a less seedy kind of set up, it wouldn't be as bad but the fact that he was her teacher and he left a wife and kids, doesn't paint the most honourable picture of the man imo

tbf to the man, it must have been a big step leaving his job and family etc, and does give him some sort of weird credibility. It doesn't really say what the situation is with his kids though, I'd hope he still has some form of contact with them.

He is also taking the risk that this girl might just decide to leave him. She has nothing to lose at this point really, whereas he has already sacrificed a lot to be with her.. actually it doesn't put the relationship on stable ground at all really, having to carry that around their necks.

[joeysteele]

I am not sure only because of the student/teacher thing.

You cannot help you who fall in love with or become strongly attracted to, age is just a number, I am 20 but know people in their 40s and 50s who are far more young in outlook than some teenagers and 20+ year olds .

However, in this instance, a teacher does have to keep a distance from pupils,so maybe it's an unwise move as to that issue.
If they are happy,(also he has quit his job),plus it's their choice then no harm done really except to the family now broken up but often love or strrong attraction causes people to act in a throwing caution to the wind action.
Actions that may be massively regretted later on,especially if things go sour between these 2 in the near or distant future.

[arista]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

Student, 18, moves in with computer teacher, 41, after he leaves wife and children and quits job

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz1o3H5Nh6A

is this right or wrong morally, the forum must decide!

I'd say it was not wrong, but it's going to end in tears probably.

It's American Student

So its Typical for them.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

I am not sure only because of the student/teacher thing.

You cannot help you who fall in love with or become strongly attracted to, age is just a number, I am 20 but know people in their 40s and 50s who are far more young in outlook than some teenagers and 20+ year olds .

However, in this instance, a teacher does have to keep a distance from pupils,so maybe it's an unwise move as to that issue.
If they are happy,(also he has quit his job),plus it's their choice then no harm done really except to the family now broken up but often love or strrong attraction causes people to act in a throwing caution to the wind action.
Actions that may be massively regretted later on,especially if things go sour between these 2 in the near or distant future.

I don't believe this for a second, you can't help who you're attracted to but love is something that happens over time and work imo

[GypsyGoth]

That teacher guy should never have been a teacher.

Aren't they meant to help students learn and not fall in love with them?

[MTVN]

Love knows no boundaries



But no, this is weird

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Love knows no boundaries



But no, this is weird

Having a crush on a teacher is normal. It's wrong when the teachers have crushes on the students.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by GypsyGoth

Having a crush on a teacher is normal. It's wrong when the teachers have crushes on the students.

Yeah it is, it's part of the job to not get involved with students, he was out of order

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yeah it is, it's part of the job to not get involved with students, he was out of order

[MTVN]

I wasn't being serious with my comment

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by MTVN

I wasn't being serious with my comment

I bet you were

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by MTVN

I wasn't being serious with my comment

Yea I realised after I quoted you that we've got the same opinion on this

[fruit_cake]

the power of love


is not acceptable here

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

the power of love


is not acceptable here

It's a glorious thing





But not with students.

[Ramsay]

ehhh i guess you cant help who you fall in love with
but i just feel really bad for his wife and kids especially the one whos only a year younger than the girl he left his family for ..must be really hard

[fruit_cake]

love will find away...



but not here it won't

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Karl

ehhh i guess you cant help who you fall in love with
but i just feel really bad for his wife and kids especially the one whos only a year younger than the girl he left his family for ..must be really hard

Of course you can help who you fall in love with

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

love will find away...



but not here it won't

Love is all around




But not at school

[fruit_cake]

when two hearts collide...




the consequences are not acceptable

[Shaun]

i just... don't care. and don't understand why others do.

[SharkAttack]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yeah it is, it's part of the job to not get involved with students, he was out of order

I agree with this. Teachers are supposed to be safe, they have a hand in raising and educating the children(non-adult) not getting romantically involved with them.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Of course you can help who you fall in love with

Normally I agree with you almost 100% Niamh, but from what I have come across even in my own family there are couples, who really do love each other but life is very difficult and their relationship is too between them.
However, no matter what, they stick by each other and have an almost unbreakable bond between them.

I have come across that too in University as to staff there particularly as to 'not approved of' relationships by their friends or family,possibly even too by society. If the feeling/love is there though,virtually nothing will stop them getting together no matter the question marks as to the relationship.

Having said that,I am not in love with anyone yet,maybe I never will be, I love loads of people in a family/friend like way but in no relationship so I bow to your greater knowledge with the fullest respect on this issue.

[Ammi]

I agree with Niamh on this. I do believe we have control over who we fall in love with. I don't believe love is 'instant' and I don't believe there is only one person on this earth we are capable of loving. We have attractions and opportunities and it is a consious decision to act on them. Attraction is one thing..love is another. There are many things I disagree with in this particular story...the betrayal of trust and deceipt of his wife and family being the first

[waterhog]

well said ammi - she is the person who i feel most sorry for as the other 2 made the decission - yes the girl is young and niave but maybe its a mistake she will lern from .

[Kizzy]

Its a bloke having a midlife crisis, similar to the boss who has an affair with his secretary and buys a motorbike..Her being an ex pupil does but a seedy spin on it though. It wont last.