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You need to talk to her Lewis and find out exactly what is going on. Does she want to stay friends. If so, you are both adults and need to deal with it together
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So sorry for your loss.
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But why don't the parents approve?
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There is a lot more going on in this friendship relationship thats not been said because it doesn’t add up.
I’m being a wanker here but are you or you friend on the spectrum autism Asperger’s ? I’m saying this because of the parents being involved in a 25 year olds life. |
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…you can try to contact her to try for a level of communication/explanation, Lewis…or maybe someone else in the friendship group that you have a particularly high level of trust with…?…but I also think that you may have to sadly start accepting that the friendship has no future and that it ending will lead you to opening new friendships as well and to feel happier within yourself….it’s causing you emotional uncertainty and it’s good for you to take steps in directions which will change that and allow other people into your life…
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…I understand that, Lewis …but a friendship isn’t a ‘one person’ thing and atm it’s not something being pursued by her as well …so maybe just let it rest and give it space atm…
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…we don’t keep all of our friendships through life, none of us do …but we don’t tend to lose mutually healthy friendships either…it’s a time to be strong, Lewis…and if she needs and time, to allow for that because that’s the way to be able to see if it indeed is a long term healthy friendship…we have to step back to see these things at times…
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I wouldn’t even say we don’t lose mutually healthy friendships. Not “at random” obviously but with things like big life changes/relocations. I kept in touch with several good friends from uni for years after leaving… but it’s a good 5 years since I spoke to any of them. Now I’m sure if I ran into one of them we’d still in fact “be friends” and have loads to talk about, but yeah… over time people drift. We’ve all moved all around the country (and world). That’s just life. |
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As sherrif said give her some time and space and if she reconnects with you that is great...if not, sadly it could be time to accept that that friendship is over
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![]() Last edited by AnnieK; 20-06-2021 at 08:19 AM. |
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…I think in the end though, Lewis…whatever things she has to focus on with her family right now…it’s to step back and leave space for her to do that….
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Again I’d say you’re over-thinking it, any personal or family reasons aren’t really any of your business if you’re just friends. Are you SURE you just see it as a friendship? Because honestly the way you’re talking about it, and the importance you’re placing on it, makes it sound like that’s not the whole story… |
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She's 25 and her parents decide who she's friends with and take her phone away? sorry she sounds really immature.
I'm younger than her and my mum would never do either, sounds like she needs to grow up and move out if her parents are that overbearing.
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Honestly it’s not something I can even imagine, at 25 I had a one-year-old and lived 4 hours drive from both of my parents ![]() Also they had little to zero interest in my private life from about the age of 12 ![]() |
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One, she has her parents in her life because she needs them Two they they are control freaks |
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If she has special needs then her and her parents are going to have a very close relationship That most people wouldn’t understand. |
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If she sees it the same way she’ll also make the effort to stay in contact. If she doesn’t well then it’s not really what you want it to be and by clinging to it, all you’re doing is stopping yourself finding the relationships that are genuinely what you want. |
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