[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Alf

You should celebrate that news with a glass of Champagne.

Alf you can be a total nob some times, don’t make light of what for many is a life of pain and suffering for those and their families.

[Alf]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Alf you can be a total nob some times, don’t make light of what for many is a life of pain and suffering for those and their families.

The best medicine for pain and suffering is making light of it. The alternative is depression.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Alf

The best medicine for pain and suffering is making light of it. The alternative is depression.

For your own pain and suffering yes this is key for a lot of people, you can't really encourage (or force) other people to laugh about their own personal things though. Has to come from the individual, and only when they're ready, or it can be gently encouraged if you know someone VERY well.

Telling a stranger or an aquaintance who isn't a good friend that they need to laugh at their trauma is a pretty big misfire.

[Kizzy]

Thanks, I've said it before but this place played a huge part in the initial stage of recovery. I withdrew from everything and spent a lot of time on here when the kids weren't around to keep me focused.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Thanks, I've said it before but this place played a huge part in the initial stage of recovery. I withdrew from everything and spent a lot of time on here when the kids weren't around to keep me focused.

Awww that's nice to here it's a fantastic achievement, you should be very proud of yourself

[Billy]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Thanks, I've said it before but this place played a huge part in the initial stage of recovery. I withdrew from everything and spent a lot of time on here when the kids weren't around to keep me focused.

That’s fantastic Kizzy, you should be so proud of yourself and your achievement!

[Kizzy]

Thanks I am actually haha!

[Gusto Brunt]

I don't drink any booze.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Gusto Brunt

I don't drink any booze.

Good for you.

[user104658]

Congratulations Kizzy, a great achievement, I sadly have experiences of people going both ways with alcoholism. My mum of course sadly never managed to conquer it for more than a few months at a time. My aunt (my mum's sister) on the other hand, who perhaps was in even deeper at her worst, both turns 70 and is 20 years sober this year.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Congratulations Kizzy, a great achievement, I sadly have experiences of people going both ways with alcoholism. My mum of course sadly never managed to conquer it for more than a few months at a time. My aunt (my mum's sister) on the other hand, who perhaps was in even deeper at her worst, both turns 70 and is 20 years sober this year.

I remember when you opened up about your mother, that must have been so hard . Im really happy for your aunt, it shows that at any age you can put it down, I don't have any answer's for how or why some do or don't pick up again. If I did I would be very rich.

[Crimson Dynamo]

[thesheriff443]

My friend has been sober for I think 16 years now and I was the first person she admitted to that she felt she had a problem problem, she went to aa.

[AnnieK]

Congratulations Kizzy - I remember you stopping. I did dry January this year and have carried on - felt miles better for it, sleeping better etc. My birthday is next week though and so will have a drink then

[MTVN]

It's normally this forum that's driving people to drink

Congrats kizzy!

[GoldHeart]

Wow 10 years doesn't it fly by .
Well done Kizzy

[Kizzy]

Thanks all.. I do have to be careful every day, and find better coping strategies for stress ( like scrabble)... and now quordle! Thanks Alf!