[Josy]

Originally Posted by -Sue-

I have been a poster on here for quite sometime... but off season... have to be honest it's really hard to fit in...so i tend to not post... im not popular or funny nor do I have a mindset of a 20 something to fit in with most convo's so I random post from time to time...

am I alone..? anyone else in this vast online universe an outsider on the good ship TiBB

Just float around and post in /reply to the things that you want to, I just wander round the place posting in threads that interest me tbh

Originally Posted by Rob!

Tbh, despite all the claims that there are cliques and friendship groups that don't welcome anybody else, it's actually all bull****. If you post in the chat thread, there are always people that will chat back to you and after a few days, you're considered to be a piece of the furniture. Just have the confidence to come in and make yourself known tbh. Every single person who posts in there was new to the environment once. I guess it doesn't help that it seems that people have their own language in there, but it's in no way noninclusive.

No sorry and no offence but this is complete bollocks, which you would see if you take your chat thread tinted specs off.

The most active chat thread atm is awful for newer members which I have witnessed on many many occasions infact its even awful for some of the regular members that I have also witnessed trying to take part in there and they get ignored or sarcastic comments aimed at them.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Josy

chat thread tinted specs.

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Josy

Just float around and post in /reply to the things that you want to, I just wander round the place posting in threads that interest me tbh



No sorry and no offence but this is complete bollocks, which you would see if you take your chat thread tinted specs off.

The most active chat thread atm is awful for newer members which I have witnessed on many many occasions infact its even awful for some of the regular members that I have also witnessed trying to take part in there and they get ignored or sarcastic comments aimed at them.

It isn’t complete bollocks at all though. The only reason the word clique gets thrown around so much is because you’re the one who complains about it the most and some of the trolls jumped on the opportunity to be able to be annoying without any repercussions because they know that if anyone reports them or bites back for baiting, you’re likely to agree with them. There are at least three members who do exactly that that I can think of on the spot.

New members post in there all the time - RileyHollyoaks and OliverW are an example of two people who are fairly new and have come in, been friendly and chatty and enjoy posting in there. As for regular members, I don’t see how any of the comments and banter are any different from you going around and telling people to ‘piss off’ or any of the other sarcastic comments you come out with. If people have a problem with something somebody says, then they should be able to say it, but the problem is confronting someone about something on here tends to result in infractions and banning anyway. There is a LOT of banter amongst the large number of people who post in there regularly, and apart from when Scott has had a red stripe, that’s normally exactly what it is, BANTER.

[Ashsleigh]

Originally Posted by Josy

Just float around and post in /reply to the things that you want to, I just wander round the place posting in threads that interest me tbh



No sorry and no offence but this is complete bollocks, which you would see if you take your chat thread tinted specs off.

The most active chat thread atm is awful for newer members which I have witnessed on many many occasions infact its even awful for some of the regular members that I have also witnessed trying to take part in there and they get ignored or sarcastic comments aimed at them.

From what I've seen the new members post in there more frequently than the "regulars" you speak of (and you've made it quite clear who you're referring to).

Plus, all I've seen in this thread are awfully rude comments aimed at the regulars so it's not exactly helping the situation, is it?

[Denver]

Originally Posted by Josy

No sorry and no offence but this is complete bollocks, which you would see if you take your chat thread tinted specs off.

The most active chat thread atm is awful for newer members which I have witnessed on many many occasions infact its even awful for some of the regular members that I have also witnessed trying to take part in there and they get ignored or sarcastic comments aimed at them.

I get attacked a hell of a lot in the chat threads for no reason

[Matthew.]

Originally Posted by -Sue-

I did venture in a few times however that was quite sometime ago I was attacked for the name I had.

They attacked you for being called Sue?
Sad people…

[-Sue-]

I find the forum .. has become much more 'baity' with some horrific comments...which has scared a lot of people off...it has all become very 'personal' when its Bb time thats for sure..

[-Sue-]

anyway Im not trying to upset anyone in a tight knit group etc im just saying that sometimes its hard to 'fit in' when the minute we walk in were ridiculed in bulk.. manners cost nothing banter can always follow once you have known a person a bit.. there thats my 10p worth

[Vicky.]

I also do think that the chat threads are quite cliquey. Not that anyone seems to be deliberately made unwelcome, but people who dont usually post there will be pretty much ignored a lot of the time. Its always been like that though, I just didn't really see it when I was 'part' of that group.]

But again, its like that in real life too. if a group of friends is talking and a randomer comes to join in, people tend to pay much more attention to their mates

[Morgan.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I also do think that the chat threads are quite cliquey. Not that anyone seems to be deliberately made unwelcome, but people who dont usually post there will be pretty much ignored a lot of the time. Its always been like that though, I just didn't really see it when I was 'part' of that group.]

But again, its like that in real life too. if a group of friends is talking and a randomer comes to join in, people tend to pay much more attention to their mates

I agree with this.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I also do think that the chat threads are quite cliquey. Not that anyone seems to be deliberately made unwelcome, but people who dont usually post there will be pretty much ignored a lot of the time. Its always been like that though, I just didn't really see it when I was 'part' of that group.]

But again, its like that in real life too. if a group of friends is talking and a randomer comes to join in, people tend to pay much more attention to their mates

That's the difference for me though, a clique IS deliberate and there's the difference.

You're right, it's natural for people to gravitate towards the people they already know/are familiar with or like and it'll take time for anyone new to bed in. Especially all in a large group together. But that's not cliquey.

A clique implies a "Mean Girls"esque club where people are purposely excluded or pushed out. That happens extremely rarely IMO.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

That's the difference for me though, a clique IS deliberate and there's the difference.

You're right, it's natural for people to gravitate towards the people they already know/are familiar with or like and it'll take time for anyone new to bed in. Especially all in a large group together. But that's not cliquey.

A clique implies a "Mean Girls"esque club where people are purposely excluded or pushed out. That happens extremely rarely IMO.

Just seen this before I replied, not to me it doesn;t :S

Clique just means a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Just seen this before I replied, not to me it doesn;t :S

Clique just means a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

I meant the Mean Girls analogy too - because the people who USUALLY use the 'clique' term, normally mean it as an insult.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

I feel quite confident in saying that there are none of those on Tibb.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I feel quite confident in saying that there are none of those on Tibb.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Just seen this before I replied, not to me it doesn;t :S

Clique just means a friendship group that quite hard to...dare I say...penetrate

But the definition of the word is a group of friends who do not allow newbies in easily.

That's a deliberate action.

Friendship groups in general will not be easy to penetrate. Purposely making it difficult or showing disregard for people outside of that group is more of a deliberate action and therefore a clique.

[Rob!]

The thing is I know full well I'm considered to be part of the 'clique' that apparently is rampant on this forum. I consider a large number of people on here as a friend, and it winds me up being accused of things that wouldn't seem out of place on the school playground.

[-Sue-]

Originally Posted by Rob!

The thing is I know full well I'm considered to be part of the 'clique' that apparently is rampant on this forum. I consider a large number of people on here as a friend, and it winds me up being accused of things that wouldn't seem out of place on the school playground.

?? you fit in thats good

But what do you mean by 'winds me up being accused of things that wouldn't seem out of place on the school playground'?

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by -Sue-

?? you fit in thats good

But what do you mean by 'winds me up being accused of things that wouldn't seem out of place on the school playground'?

I mean the clique thing, which would imply that I am unwelcoming and part of a 'gang.' The number of people who post in the chat thread alone seems to be too large to be considered a clique in my view.

[-Sue-]

Originally Posted by Rob!

I mean the clique thing, which would imply that I am unwelcoming and part of a 'gang.' The number of people who post in the chat thread alone seems to be too large to be considered a clique in my view.

ahh i haven't mentioned clique just that.. getting into a group of chatters is sometimes hard...as they have all known each other ages and its hard to find that way in to fit in

I am not baiting nor hating just saying that I feel that I just don't fit in to certain groups that have known each other yonkeedoodles...

so please don't make mountains out of molehills and put words in my mouth but ty for your replies

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by -Sue-

ahh i haven't mentioned clique just that.. getting into a group of chatters is sometimes hard...as they have all known each other ages and its hard to find that way in to fit in

I am not baiting nor hating just saying that I feel that I just don't fit in to certain groups that have known each other yonkeedoodles...

so please don't make mountains out of molehills and put words in my mouth but ty for your replies

I'm not trying to put words in your mouth at all, so apologies if it came across like that. But threads like this don't help the notion that the clique exists. Not your problem, and you're more than entitled to say how you feel, in fact I applaud you for it. But, and I say this with all due respect, if you don't post on here all that often, it's tricky to make many close relationships on here, the same as it would if you didn't frequent the pubs and bars and cafes or whatever that people you know in real life do.

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Rob!

I mean the clique thing, which would imply that I am unwelcoming and part of a 'gang.' The number of people who post in the chat thread alone seems to be too large to be considered a clique in my view.

To be fair you have just said there are a lot of tools on tbe forum...thats you being welcoming is it?

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by parmnion

To be fair you have just said there are a lot of tools on tbe forum...thats you being welcoming is it?

Welcoming to who? The people who act like tools?

[Morgan.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

The thing is I know full well I'm considered to be part of the 'clique' that apparently is rampant on this forum. I consider a large number of people on here as a friend, and it winds me up being accused of things that wouldn't seem out of place on the school playground.

I've never really seen you as part of the clique, but anyhow I see it less as a clique and more as a friendship group that have some walls up. Everyone's still lovely but some friendship groups are harder to get into than others

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Blurryface

I've never really seen you as part of the clique, but anyhow I see it less as a clique and more as a friendship group that have some walls up. Everyone's still lovely but some friendship groups are harder to get into than others

Thank you, but I know that I'm considered part of it by those who see the chat thread as a problem on here. The thing is, I remember when I first started posting in there and I was practically ignored at first, but I kept at it and soon my sparkling personality shone through Seriously though, outcasting new people is just not something that I would ever do in real life, so why the hell would I do it on an internet forum and why would I be friends with people who do it either?