[Marsh.]

Can I also commend you for using the word "baiting" in every post since I mentioned it.

[Jake.]

For those who don’t have the confidence to approach people on a night out or wherever, they’re a pretty good option to have

[Jake.]

oh + I personally don’t see a difference between talking to people on an internet forum/making friends from it in real life and talking to someone through an app any different (regardless on wherever it’s to do with dating).

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Jake.

oh + I personally don’t see a difference between talking to people on an internet forum/making friends from it in real life and talking to someone through an app any different (regardless on wherever it’s to do with dating).

Well the main difference would be you never joined this forum to date and/or meet up with people? That only happened by chance through time.

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Well the main difference would be you never joined this forum to date and/or meet up with people? That only happened by chance through time.

But I joined to chat with people, no?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Jake.

But I joined to chat with people, no?

Completely agree.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Jake.

But I joined to chat with people, no?

Yeah to chat about bb but whats that got to do with a dating app

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Yeah to chat about bb but whats that got to do with a dating app

Because it’s socialising through the internet?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Yeah to chat about bb but whats that got to do with a dating app

Well, it all encompasses socialising. Whether there's an intent to begin with to finding a partner/a friend or not, it's about connecting with others and seeing what happens.

[Jake.]

Like if I’m happy meeting people on a Big Brother forum/posting photos on instagram/tweeting and what not on twitter and so on, I don’t feel like I’m in a place to rule out a dating app

[Niamh.]

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to find a romantic partner, is that not it?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to go d a romantic partner, is that not it?

Yes. Jake's drawing a parallel between that and other online socialising, it all relates tbh and isn't much different.

People make friends/partners on twitter and that's not designed for dating either.

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to go d a romantic partner, is that not it?

Dating apps can just be talking tbf, sometimes nothing even comes of it date-wise

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Jake.

Dating apps can just be talking, sometimes nothing comes of talking to people date-wise

Yeah, it would be no different to meeting someone in a bar and arranging to go for a meal with them but then nothing coming of that one date.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Jake.

Dating apps can just be talking tbf, sometimes nothing even comes of it date-wise

Yeah maybe but thats not the point of them really is it

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Yeah maybe but thats not the point of them really is it

Depends what the person is using it for I guess

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm so confused I thought the thread starter meant dating sites as in to find a romantic partner, is that not it?

Yeah thats where the confusion started earlier in the thread i was talking about the dating point of the thread then someone brought up social meet ups (which isnt dating imo) then rob compared a dating app to tibb which i just dont get since im pretty sure none of us joined tibb to find a date

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

then someone brought up social meet ups (which isnt dating imo)

No meeting someone socially to go for a drink (as opposed to meeting for casual sex) or whatever isn't dating.

Ok Josy.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Yeah thats where the confusion started earlier in the thread i was talking about the dating point of the thread then someone brought up social meet ups (which isnt dating imo) then rob compared a dating app to tibb which i just dont get since im pretty sure none of us joined tibb to find a date

That's like saying "You went on that night out for your best friend's birthday, you didn't go out specifically looking for a date so happening to meet someone there doesn't really count".

[Jake.]

Like I don’t even get how you’d meet someone face to face and arrange a date unless you was confident in doing so, I know I’m not. Dating apps can eliminate that awkward first step for some people.

[user104658]

Tbh I do find dating apps (the entire concept, as well as in practice) pretty depressing . And I met my wife online! Though on a forum, not a dating site.

[Ashley.]

They sure do make the answer to "how did you two meet?" a little less romantic.

[Tom4784]

It's not something I'm interested in, don't care for meeting strangers for sex tbh and I'd rather form a connection in the flesh than online.

[thesheriff443]

Never been on any, but its a sign of the times.

[user104658]

To elaborate on my stance, I guess I find it a bit sad when people have to actively search for that connection - be it a relationship or even just physical - rather than just letting life happen and those things being a part of it. It's not exclusively apps and sites I'd say that about, I feel the same about blind dates / setups / any active "love searching" I guess. I mean I understand why people do it, it just doesn't seem organic to me.

So like I said it's not even like I think Internet meeting is "sad" - I met my wife on a student forum, and we've been together 11 years - but neither of us were out there "looking for love". She actually had a boyfriend when we first started talking, and I was there to... Well... Borderline troll like I do here . But we got talking a bit on good old MSN, ended up talking every day, had a vague plan to meet up travelling after uni... Eventually ended up so desperate to meet in person that we abandonned that plan and booked flights there and then (she was on a year abroad in France).

But yeah... I know a few with similar stories - met on music forums, TV fan forums, etc. and that is still... I guess... A modern version of "normal". Just people interacting in everyday ways and finding connections. That's where the difference is, for me. I find it a bit bleak that people have to resort to "searching for someone" for emotional or physical intimacy.