[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.

No I just actually left my house to socialise instead of depending on an app to tell me I match up with someone

What was that you said about baiting...

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Josy

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Withano

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

So on nights out you only speak to and socialise with those you were out with to start with? Genuinely curious..

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

No I just actually left my house to socialise instead of depending on an app to tell me I match up with someone

What was that you said about baiting...

Yes, because the app isn't used to then.... meet up with people.

And also, the apps are only used by unsociable dregs of society. Oh wait, it's actually very mainstream.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Sullen Girl

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or

People meet in all different ways or they used to lol, through mutual friends, college/uni, work, at clubs for hobbies and so on

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

How am i baiting? Theres nothing to explain its all there to read, you worded your comment in a silly way whilst sarcastically accusing me of being judgemental then tried to backtrack.

Social meetups do not solely mean dating no matter how much you try to say they do, go google it.

I didn't word it in a silly way.

I never said social meet ups "solely" mean dating. I said it was clear I was referring to dating as that is what this thread is about. You referenced how "sad" you found the apps so I offered the difference between what I would deem the "sad" aspect of the apps (the seedy/dangerous stranger sex aspect and the old stereotype of meeting people online being the dirty pervs or the chat rooms of the 90s) and aiding the traditional dating as a social activity (meeting up for drinks/a meal/a movie/whatever).

But, yeah, I was clearly diverting... because you said.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

Oh.. but then I feel like there must have been a swap or a shift in priorities.

I would be distraught if a friend left my side at a club or a pub because his eyes met with some bloody stranger.. I feel like to have old-style dating, you would have to give up new-style socialising with friends?

I'm much more content with the idea of a friend swiping left and right at home and then coming to enjoy a night out with friends, than the idea of someone doing a 2-birds-1-stone type thing and trying to chat up new gash in between dancing terribly to music we hate, and smoking delicious cigarettes.

Tbh, that's another positive. At least with the apps you know when you meet up (on the proviso they are who they say they are) you at least already know you will have something in common with the person and therefore if all else fails it won't be a 100% disaster.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Josy

So on nights out you only speak to and socialise with those you were out with to start with? Genuinely curious..

Probably about 75-85% of the time yeah. There might be an old friend to bump in to, a friends old friend, or a stranger who has a lighter for my delicious cigarettes.

I dont think I've ever been ditched by a friend for a stranger that a friend has found attractive from a distance in a bar. That sounds heartbreaking! I don't think I could ever do that to someone I planned a night out with either! Seems cruel almost to ask them to go out for drinks and ditch them as soon as a stranger gives you a wink.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Yes, because the app isn't used to then.... meet up with people.

And also, the apps are only used by unsociable dregs of society. Oh wait, it's actually very mainstream.

I never replied at first because again your comment made no sense before the edit.

I dont think ive ever said dating apps werent mainstream so not sure where youre going with that...

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Withano

Probably about 75-85% of the time yeah. There might be an old friend to bump in to, a friends old friend, or a stranger who has a lighter for my delicious cigarettes.

I dont think I've ever been ditched by a friend for a stranger that a friend has found attractive from a distance in a bar. That sounds heartbreaking! I don't think I could ever do that to someone I planned a night out with either! Seems cruel almost to ask them to go out for drinks and ditch them as soon as a stranger gives you a wink.

Fair enough lol

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Tbh, that's another positive. At least with the apps you know when you meet up (on the proviso they are who they say they are) you at least already know you will have something in common with the person and therefore if all else fails it won't be a 100% disaster.

Yeh, thats the main positive for me. I haven't used them for a year and a half, and I'm not planning on using one any time soon. But I'd imagine a date would be far more interesting if you knew two or three shared interests beforehand.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

I never replied at first because again your comment made no sense before the edit.

I dont think ive ever said dating apps werent mainstream so not sure where youre going with that...

I never said you did. I was picking up on your insinuation to Scott about how you used to socialise and actually go out and meet people. That insinuates those on these apps are unsociable and don't go out to meet people? Yes?

Even though these apps are designed for people to arrange actual meet ups of course.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

I never said you did. I was picking up on your insinuation to Scott about how you used to socialise and actually go out and meet people. That insinuates those on these apps are unsociable and don't go out to meet people? Yes?

Even though these apps are designed for people to arrange actual meet ups of course.

Youre getting a bit caught up with thinking everything I post is insinuating something.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Youre getting a bit caught up with thinking everything I post is insinuating something.

There is no other reason for you to flippantly come out with sentences like "We used to actually go out and socialise" unless you think the current method is the opposite.

Now who's diverting?

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

There is no other reason for you to flippantly come out with sentences like "We used to actually go out and socialise" unless you think the current method is the opposite.

Now who's diverting?

I think if you scroll back youll find it was your baiting post about myself that I replied to with that comment.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

I think if you scroll back youll find it was your baiting post about myself that I replied to with that comment.

Whatever. It was still a comment you made in relation to your stance on the topic. You made a similar comment to Niamh, the actual post I originally responded to.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Whatever. It was still a comment you made in relation to your stance on the topic.

No it was just a snidey reply you and your baiting tbh

Anyway, you like dating apps and clearly took offence to me having a negative opinion about them, dont think theres much more to discuss between us regarding it.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

No it was just a snidey reply you and your baiting tbh

Anyway, you like dating apps and clearly took offence to me having a negative opinion about them, dont think theres much more to discuss between us regarding it.

Well, I don't use the apps so whether that defines me as personally "liking" them is up to you.

Not offended, but felt the need to respond to your disparaging and judgemental view, yeah. A view you're entitled to have, but when it's based on what I see as a misguided view on something I will comment where I think you're viewing it wrong.

Obviously, without all of the hullabaloo about dating as a social activity in the middle.

[Marsh.]

Can I also commend you for using the word "baiting" in every post since I mentioned it.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Well, I don't use the apps so whether that defines me as personally "liking" them is up to you.

Not offended, but felt the need to respond to your disparaging and judgemental view, yeah. A view you're entitled to have, but when it's based on what I see as a misguided view on something I will comment where I think you're viewing it wrong.

Obviously, without all of the hullabaloo about dating as a social activity in the middle.

My views are neither disparaging or judgmental but carry on.

[Jake.]

For those who don’t have the confidence to approach people on a night out or wherever, they’re a pretty good option to have

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by Sullen Girl

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or

Someone actually came up to me the other day in Tesco asking where I live and I was like I have a bf and he looked so awkward and just walked away and apologized

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

My views are neither disparaging or judgmental but carry on.

Well I'm entitled to the opinion that it is.

You basically called them all unsocial and sad. "Divert" and deny all you want, but you did because of a misguided view of the apps themselves.

[Jake.]

oh + I personally don’t see a difference between talking to people on an internet forum/making friends from it in real life and talking to someone through an app any different (regardless on wherever it’s to do with dating).

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Jake.

oh + I personally don’t see a difference between talking to people on an internet forum/making friends from it in real life and talking to someone through an app any different (regardless on wherever it’s to do with dating).

Well the main difference would be you never joined this forum to date and/or meet up with people? That only happened by chance through time.