[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

I think there's truth to this. He might've done the classic cheating man's "oh my partner treats me like crap. She thinks i'm this, that, that's why I nice when you and I talk"

..yes because he had said it was a long term relationship..and relationships go through stale patches as well....but she didn't pay enough attention to the important part though...he was in a relationship...good or bad, he wasn't free to pursue anything else and she put herself in the position of getting hurt and reading more into it than she should....

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I don't believe she should get any sympathy tbh, he was taken, she knew that, she still knew that when he told her to forget about his g/f. Girl should learn a lesson from it

Indeed girl should. But still lol I give her some sympathy as friendship was her main goal with this guy.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

Is this a true story?

Could be. If it's not it's not something men don't do all the time anyway. (women too)

[Marsh.]

I know. Bastards.

[Niamh.]

Ammi this is making me think of those moral dilemmas you used to do, we need another of those!

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yes because he had said it was a long term relationship..and relationships go through stale patches as well....but she didn't pay enough attention to the important part though...he was in a relationship...good or bad, he wasn't free to pursue anything else and she put herself in the position of getting hurt and reading more into it than she should....

True, poor girl. Sad thing is people can't help who they fall for. Now she has to deal with those feelings while the guy goes on with his relationship. ......or she could poke the guy's girlfriend on facebook and go on Jeremy kyle Why she guy be happy while girl drowns in his made-destruction?

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by SharkAttack

He's a dick and she was weak. Learning moment. Move on and don't look back.

So much of this combination everywhere. Maybe it's true girls and boys can't be just friends afterall.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Ammi this is making me think of those moral dilemmas you used to do, we need another of those!

..yeah, I love those..I'll try to google some tomorrow..see if I can find some new ones....

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

True, poor girl. Sad thing is people can't help who they fall for. Now she has to deal with those feelings while the guy goes on with his relationship. ......or she could poke the guy's girlfriend on facebook and go on Jeremy kyle Why she guy be happy while girl drowns in his made-destruction?

..the thing is they can ITILY2...they totally control who they fall for..for instance if I ever thought I could be even in the slightest way attracted to someone other than my partner...I would make sure I was never in the position were I could ever be tempted...that's in out control..to think that an initial attraction could stay as a friendship without any emotions becoming hurt is just niave...but worst of all..his partner will become hurt most when she didn't pursue anything...she will still see this as a betrayal...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, I love those..I'll try to google some tomorrow..see if I can find some new ones....



..the thing is they can ITILY2...they totally control who they fall for..for instance if I ever thought I could be even in the slightest way attracted to someone other than my partner...I would make sure I was never in the position were I could ever be tempted...that's in out control..to think that an initial attraction could stay as a friendship without any emotions becoming hurt is just niave...but worst of all..his partner will become hurt most when she didn't pursue anything...she will still see this as a betrayal...

This, this, this. I hate that excuse

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, I love those..I'll try to google some tomorrow..see if I can find some new ones....



..the thing is they can ITILY2...they totally control who they fall for..for instance if I ever thought I could be even in the slightest way attracted to someone other than my partner...I would make sure I was never in the position were I could ever be tempted...that's in out control..to think that an initial attraction could stay as a friendship without any emotions becoming hurt is just niave...but worst of all..his partner will become hurt most when she didn't pursue anything...she will still see this as a betrayal...

This sounds sensible, and do-able however there are situations where one can't avoid the person-say maybe if they are colleagues or a fellow student at uni-then what?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

So much of this combination everywhere. Maybe it's true girls and boys can't be just friends afterall.

No, that's crap. I had female friends in college who I would never in a million years think of in a romantic/sexual way.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

This, this, this. I hate that excuse

lol. You think it's just a romanticized saying that emerged from a romance novel?

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

No, that's crap. I had female friends in college who I would never in a million years think of in a romantic/sexual way.

Because they were unattractive? Could you have more than 5 female friends that looked like Kelly Brook?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

Because they were unattractive? Could you have more than 5 female friends that looked like Kelly Brook?

They're not unattractive at all. They're just friends though.

BTW, I don't find Kelly Brook attractive.

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

They're not unattractive at all. They're just friends though.

BTW, I don't find Kelly Brook attractive.

Lol why did I have the feeling you would say that!

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

lol. You think it's just a romanticized saying that emerged from a romance novel?

Yeah lol People can't help who they're attracted to absolutely but they choose to let it go further than that

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

Lol why did I have the feeling you would say that!

Why? I just don't. lol

I prefer more natural looking girls, Brook always looks overdone.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

lol. You think it's just a romanticized saying that emerged from a romance novel?

..yeah, but it is just that LOL..you can't help if you find some one initially attractive but you can help whether you pursue that attraction or not...it's all in your control and no one else's...

..just press the off button...

[Z]

Some people just like to fill other people's heads with thoughts about them.. they like the buzz it gives them, knowing that someone else can't stop thinking about them, but inside they are empty. Often it's because they've been the victim of someone just like this, and consciously or subconsciously decide to try it out for themselves to see if it hurts any less from the other side. It doesn't. It hurts just as much to know that you are messing someone around as it hurts to be messed around. I feel sorry for the single girl in this scenario. She was victimised and then the manipulator turned it back around on her and played down her feelings as if she'd invented them out of thin air. I know exactly how she feels, I've been in a situation almost identical to this one, but in my case, the manipulator didn't have a long term relationship but rather had just come out of one and was still on/off with that person behind my back. Even to this day, like a year and a half after things ended between that person and I, they are still on/off with their ex. It just goes to show that you should never let yourself (and that's the key point, you do have control) get involved with someone who isn't a completely free agent. Everyone has their baggage, but it's up to you to decide what's worth the risk and what isn't. I don't think I'll ever get over the first time someone took my feelings and abused them to the point of no return, just because they could. I received no explanation for why they had done this to me - instead, when I said I was in love, the response was "no you're not" and a wall of silence.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

No, that's crap. I had female friends in college who I would never in a million years think of in a romantic/sexual way.

Same here for me in High School.

[Cherie]

Months later, girl finds out boy has a long term girlfriend.


I don't know how the girl can be blamed in all this, they started out as friends (yes its a line from a song), in her head they were online/texting buddies with things in common, then he casually mentions his girlfriend after a few months!!!! If in her head they are friends why would she then say I want nothing more to do with this...(this forum would be pretty dead if anyone with a partner stopped posting/chatting .)...she was naive yes, because she didnt realise where it would lead... but she is not to blame, he suckered her in for his own thrills, and has now waltzed off into the sunset or moved on to someone else online (delete as appropriate).....

[SharkAttack]

Originally Posted by Ithinkiloveyoutoo

So much of this combination everywhere. Maybe it's true girls and boys can't be just friends afterall.

False. When people hit their mid-20s, or perhaps long before, they say things like "look, I want a relationship without games..." *This* whole thing was a game. The guy was a long-term flirt and catch, who took her off the shelf whenever he saw fit. He was having his woman and having something "special" on the side, but later tired of this latest fetch, or guilt came into play. Complete douche. Good?

And the girl fell for the game, which was this guy "side-cheating," leading her into this gloomy mess of a person, with the sweet-talking and illusions, all for self-gratification. And this kind of crap, the back-and-forth, went on for, what, a few years? Sick bastard, really. If anything, she's lucky that she didn't actually sleep with him. He never got that. But the heart and head is another thing. What can I say? I didn't like the story, it felt cruel and immature.

Well-seasoned men and women know the games, and won't fall for them, but only because they've been there at some time. Hope she's currently dating and bedding Hugh Grant and sending photos to douchee-McGee...so she can play her last game and get past this.

[Josy]

Both are dicks.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by 08marsh

Is this a true story?

nah, it's a love story...baby just say yes

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Both are dicks.