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13-11-2015, 03:35 AM | #26 | |||
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It is seldom true in normal everyday society. The majority of the world isn't living in some trumped up reality where women are some kind of barbie princesses looking for someone to pay their botox bill. ALL the women I know work as many hours or more as their husbands and bring in an equal share of the income, pay half the mortgage and almost all of the grocery bill, and take care of the lion share of household chores. We don't just serve the bacon, we go out and raise the pig, slaughter it, bring it home and fry it in the pan. welcome to not the 50's
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13-11-2015, 04:05 AM | #27 | |||
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Quand il pleut, il pleut
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...so, in this scenario...why does there have to be marriage involved..and not just people choosing to have multiple sexual partners..?..
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13-11-2015, 05:28 AM | #28 | |||
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Quand il pleut, il pleut
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...so I guess that if a wife is perfectly happy in doing all of the chores/raising their children etc and for her husband to have a mistress for the sexual part of their partnership etc...what she's really saying is..honey, my hoovering and mashing the children's potatoes is bringing it on for me ..sexually, you don't really offer anything I need or would enjoy...so, a 'mistress'...someone who didn't want the hoovering and mashed potatoes in their life but only sex, would they then, not want great sex../that would make sense...so why would they choose someone whose wife was quite happy doing her chores..because in having a mistress, he's running before he can walk really...
..obviously, that's taking out any betrayals and just assuming that this was all open and agreed by all involved.... Last edited by Ammi; 13-11-2015 at 06:24 AM. |
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13-11-2015, 05:31 AM | #29 | |||
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I mean if they all agreed to it then that's fine, it just isn't something I would want |
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13-11-2015, 06:17 AM | #30 | |||
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13-11-2015, 06:20 AM | #31 | |||
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This Witch doesn't burn
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13-11-2015, 06:27 AM | #32 | |||
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In answer to the OP no I don't agree, it might sound like fun to be the mistress at least that is how you made it sound Kate, but what about if the mistress become emotionally involved and down the line resentment kicks in and all those special days he is with his wife (Christmas for instance) and family and you are on your own, and then you find out he lied about not having sex with his wife etc etc ...
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13-11-2015, 07:08 AM | #33 | |||
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13-11-2015, 07:12 AM | #34 | |||
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13-11-2015, 07:14 AM | #35 | |||
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13-11-2015, 07:18 AM | #36 | ||
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No, not for me, if a mistress is required then better not to have married in the first place.
If you commit to someone then you've chosen your path and should not stray. |
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13-11-2015, 07:34 AM | #37 | |||
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A very old-fashioned opinion there, Kate. I admire your bravery of sharing it, though.
I disagree though, it would probably confuse the children more than anything. |
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13-11-2015, 07:35 AM | #38 | |||
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Decent honest married men (or even men that are in a long term relationship) tend have no need for a mistress, I think happily being 'the mistress' in the situation says a lot of that person, they have no respect for themselves and are clearly someone that happily plays that part without feeling or guilt for the other parties involved and not just the wife or other partner but for the rest of the families too including children.
Mistresses are generally kept secret for a reason too, they are used by the so called men they get involved with and then flung to the side and ignored when it comes to more important things in the mans life like his wife and children. I'm only replying to the husband/wife scenario due to whats said in the OP but do find the topic to be slightly sexist as it's not just men who have affairs so what I said could be applied to anyone. Last edited by Josy; 13-11-2015 at 08:00 AM. |
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13-11-2015, 08:01 AM | #39 | |||
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Does that also mean a wife can have a husband and a toy boy lover...
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13-11-2015, 08:05 AM | #40 | |||
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13-11-2015, 08:21 AM | #41 | |||
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Jessica Meuse was robbed.
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It depends on what the Mistress looked like.
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13-11-2015, 08:26 AM | #42 | |||
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You cannot have a happy marriage if you have a mistress, you may be married but happy, respect for yourself, true to yourself?
No You would be nothing more than a shallow cad and your life a pathetic sham |
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13-11-2015, 08:49 AM | #43 | |||
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13-11-2015, 08:52 AM | #44 | |||
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Two lines and you summed it up perfectly Joey
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13-11-2015, 08:53 AM | #45 | |||
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Wow... what about women who have money and status what's their excuse?
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13-11-2015, 08:54 AM | #46 | |||
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Exactly and as much as I find the OP insulting towards women, it's also pretty insulting towards all those decent men out there in marriages/long term relationships.
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13-11-2015, 09:09 AM | #47 | |||
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The term 'mistress' is quite out moded to be applied to any modern relationship, mistresses were taken without the consent of the wife and conducted in secret.
I don't think having a long term affair could or ever would add to a marriage, the deception and the divergence of feelings for both women would be detrimental to the marriage and if discovered could end it completely. Personally I would not like to be the mistress, should the affair last there would be the distinct risk of developing feelings for the man you are sleeping with, added to that the need for a loving family of your own where you happily provide both a happy home life and a fulfilling sex life. There should be no question of a divergence of roles, if that were the case we could go on forever selecting mates for specific roles... I could have Mr Monday for his bedroom prowess, Mr Tuesday the electrician, Mr Wednesday the gardener... Hang on, I'm having a rethink....jk.
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13-11-2015, 09:14 AM | #48 | ||
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13-11-2015, 09:16 AM | #49 | |||
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I know I'm getting quite emotive about this subject but I have witnessed the complete and utter devastation this kind of thing causes a family, not just the couple themselves but kids and brothers and sisters etc etc it's not pretty and for someone like the OP to come along all flippantly like that and not give a **** about the trail of destruction those actions, all in the name of meaningless "fun" can cause, actually disgusts me I spent months upon months trying to help someone very close to me pick up the pieces of their shattered life after a situation very similar to this.
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13-11-2015, 09:41 AM | #50 | |||
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