[thesheriff443]

Do you visit relatives graves, if so how often?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Yes, i visited my great great grandfather, great grandfather, grandfather and father on Sunday as it goes and put some flowers on them all. Luckily they are all in 2 adjacent graveyards.

[Cal.]

Occasionally yes.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Last night at an auction there was a box with a vintage real skeleton in it and it was weird holding this mans skull in my hand to think he was once a human with thoughts and a life, he still had a few teeth attached. It made 175 quid

[Shaun]

Sometimes go with my mother for anniversaries/birthdays etc but I don't think I'd go of my own accord, don't really feel comfortable doing it.

[Crimson Dynamo]

I find graveyards fascinating

[_Tom_]

No, most of my relatives were cremated.

[Cherie]

Yes

[Mokka]

No

I lately think i should, but i haven't been to the farm in so many years where my father's parents are.... and my maternal grandmother's grave is here on the outskirts of the city... but i just never think on a day off that I should be going to it. I guess it just isn't a tradition my family have ... i am thinking it is because we only have had one generation pass in North America

[Benjamin]

Not been to my fathers and brothers' in a while, and now I'm in New Zealand it'll be longer. I will visit them on trips back to England though.

[hijaxers]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Do you visit relatives graves, if so how often?

Mostly mine have been burnt

[caprimint]

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by caprimint

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

LT?


Not necessarily, it can be out of respect for those that are gone as well

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by Cherie

LT?


Not necessarily, it can be out of respect for those that are gone as well

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

[T*]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

Let's not do this whole thing

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Incorrect, it is life affirming to recognise what has come before you, its nothing to do with religion, its about being alive

Who has hacked your account?

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

Totally agreed with this.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

Apart from our children carrying our genes throughout their lives and passing them on to their children, it is exactly THAT what you say above which keeps us immortal Niamh, whether we are religious or not. While ever SOMEONE is TALKING about us, THINKING about us, and REMEMBERING us with love and respect after were gone, we LIVE.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

You can do both?

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

Personally I find it sad to see unkempt graves, it feels like no one cares

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Personally I find it sad to see unkempt graves, it feels like no one cares

This. It' feels like 'oh they're buried now, let's move on'. Otherwise you may as well just be cremated and scattered.

[T*]

Originally Posted by caprimint

No...it's pointless unless you are religious.

Yet I'm not religious

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by T*

Yet I'm not religious

Meh. I don't see how it has any real meaning if you're not.

Most likely something you've been brought up to do just because your family do.

[Ammi]

..when I visit my mum, I often go with her to visit her mum and dad's grave...not so much to pay respects for me but more that it's a time when she reminisces about them and about her childhood etc and I never knew my grandma/she died when I was a baby so I love to hear my mum's stories is the reason really and that's the time she talks most about some things../and weirdly it's just her and I time and getting to know my mum before she was my mum as well...I've only ever visited my dad's grave one time and it so much made me feel that he wasn't there/all that was there were his ashes but that's not him...and I hate the fact that my mum feels a link to where his ashes are so that she is disabled from living a life without him and moving closer to those who love her/the living who love her...which would be moving away from his grave...people we love/have loved and have had great meaning in our lives are in our hearts and in the things we are/they're a part of us so they're with us wherever we are always so I don't personally feel the need to visit a place of burial of a body or ashes etc...

[T*]

Originally Posted by caprimint

Meh. I don't see how it has any real meaning if you're not.



Most likely something you've been brought up to do just because your family do.

My family isn't religious either.