[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Well exactly, it's not "normal" and its not just because he's used to it and won't stop, things change as children approach adolescence and it would be normal for them to naturally start to want privacy.

The fact that he hasn't, and especially the wetting + aggression, suggests there's a much deeper issue with this boy than the simple fact that he has been bedsharing. It sounds like he has a serious fear of sleeping alone - and a fear like that isn't borne from "never having slept alone", its much more likely that he HAS slept alone and whilst doing so something has happened that's been traumatic and triggered this fear.

Like any fear really. Most people who are scared of flying for example, it's not because they've never flown. It's because one of the first times they did fly, something happened that terrified them (bad turbulence, scary crosswinds on landing etc).

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Toy Soldier,I keep saying this but your posts are really incredible.

I agree there seems like there must some likely serious issues with this 13 year old that as you say has them in no way wanting to sleep on their own.
We haven't got the full story behind this and that is why I would not say it is wrong.

You make a great point as to the flying too, I have a Cousin who will not fly because there was some engine trouble when she flew as a teenager,she has never and has stated she will nver, set foot in a plane again.
To gte her home after the flight that scared her, My Aunt and Uncle had to travel overland and bring her back on Eurostar.

Like I said, if a young child is scared alone and you just force them to sleep alone anyway, that's not going to solve anything, it's going to make it into a bigger and longer lasting issue.

The last part quoted separately above this comment of your post makes another really understanding and very strong point too.