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Originally Posted by Kizzy

I'm surprised you think they're nonsense as you actually sound like you've written one haha!
Where does co-sleeping end, and how does it begin? One whingy night wouldn't make me think this child and any subsequent children never want to sleep alone.

Well for our first as I said earlier, we had a horrible few months to begin with after issues at the hospital. She was fine but they kept her in with a suspected infection, then accidentally gave her a massive overdose of antibiotics, so her first week of life was a never ending barrage of being poked and prodded with needles, having blood taken from little "cuts" they made in her feet, etc... And they had a habit of turning up to do this while she was asleep. She got very distressed at even being put down for months afterwards, almost certainly due to mild trauma, and we stumbled on co-sleeping because we simply couldn't continue as we were (sleeping in shifts, one always with her downstairs).

Second daughter we basically just did it from the start, she was exclusively breastfed and fed 4 or 5 times a night, and for obvious reasons my partner didn't want to be up and down all night!

As for when it ends... Like I said it could technically be any time now. My 4 year old can sleep alone all night, 18m old sometimes needs convinced to go back to sleep at about 5am but otherwise is alone for a big chunk of the night. If we had 3 rooms it would all be down to choice. As it is, if the 18m old woke the 4 year old at 5am, the 4 year old would want to get up to "play" then be exhausted and miserable by 2pm! Would be a disaster really, and we're all happy as we are for now so there's no reason to mess with what works. I have no worries because as I say, they're both confident / able enough to sleep alone. As it stands I'm thinking / hoping they'll enjoy sharing a room when the littlest is 3+... The eldest likes the idea in theory already. Not sure she'll be so impressed when she's 6 stuck with her 3 year old little sister though .

That said, I apparently used to snore like a warthog in my partners ear at night so she says she doesnt even want me back! In jest. Maybe. Haha.