[Zippy]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Precisely what I mean as in previous posts about the variables, circumstances, etc ...... it's not always as clear cut as it sometimes appears to be.

well what's your solution then?

we all know there's a million scenarios but what they all boil down to are weak minds and submissive dispositions. Neither myself or my sisters would ever be controlled in a relationship and I can say that for a fact.

Like with most things it all goes back to how you're raised. That said, we became strong by seeing our Mothers weakness as an example.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Zippy

well what's your solution then?

we all know there's a million scenarios but what they all boil down to are weak minds and submissive dispositions. Neither myself or my sisters would ever be controlled in a relationship and I can say that for a fact.

Like with most things it all goes back to how you're raised. That said, we became strong by seeing our Mothers weakness as an example.

If I had the solution Zippy, I'd not be sitting faffing about on a Sunday afternoon, making homemade soup and on here.

It's nothing to do with how you are raised. I grew up with a very controlling father, and a mother who was controlled.....(yet ironically, she too was controlling in her own way with me) .... I saw all the signs within the 1st 3 months, yet thought 'I could change him / help him beat it....".

the only person I beat up was myself for not listening to my head (and instinct) rather than my heart. But we all live and learn. It's when you don't learn from your mistakes - that's when you become a fool.