[Jordan.]

[Daniel.]

Yes
Daniel_, goldensunlight, Jordan., Rob!, windyourneckin, _LucasMichael_

not us the only people being honest ..

[Niamh.]

No
armand.kay, BB6, Beau, Dezzy, Germyle, jet, joeysteele, LeatherTrumpet, LukeB, Mystic Mock, Natalie., Niamh., RichardG, Riley95, SharkAttack, Shaun, Xtopher

Not us the only people with some class

[Daniel.]

I'm classy af

[Niamh.]

Home wreckers aren't classy

[goldensunlight]

Yeah. If they're the one that's married it's their problem, not yours.

[jet]

Originally Posted by goldensunlight

Yeah. If they're the one that's married it's their problem, not yours.

If you know the person is married you can't absolve yourself from taking some of the blame. It's your choice to go there.

[Daniel.]

Originally Posted by goldensunlight

Yeah. If they're the one that's married it's their problem, not yours.

tbh.

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Jack_

I would have to like them enough, but probably. Would be a bit wary of it being on TV what with all the undeserved hatred you'd receive but oh well

The single party in instances of cheating are absolved of any blame, unless they know the person that's being cheated on...but even then, still not their wrongdoing

I don't think it would be undeserved at all.

And anyone who knowingly gets with a married person is just as much in the wrong as the married person, in my opinion. I don't think they deserve to be absolved of anything, they've been just as complicit in hurting and disrespecting someone as the other person.

Anyway, my answer is no.

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Home wreckers aren't classy

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Lostie!

I don't think it would be undeserved at all.

And anyone who knowingly gets with a married person is just as much in the wrong as the married person, in my opinion. I don't think they deserve to be absolved of anything, they've been just as complicit in hurting and disrespecting someone as the other person.

Anyway, my answer is no.

Absolutely agree. I think if you either go through or witness someone you love going through the complete devastation cheating can cause some people might have a change of opinion on it

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Lostie!

I don't think it would be undeserved at all.

And anyone who knowingly gets with a married person is just as much in the wrong as the married person, in my opinion. I don't think they deserve to be absolved of anything, they've been just as complicit in hurting and disrespecting someone as the other person.

But they are also single, and free to do as they wish. Seriously, I get so sick of seeing the single party in instances of cheating being blamed more than the actual person who cheated. Like if a guy cheated on his girlfriend with some girl they knew, the girl will direct all the blame at the 'home wrecking slut' and let her boyfriend off the hook. It's absolute nonsense.

I am not saying it's nice to knowingly get with someone you know is taken, it is certainly very nasty and leaves that person with questionable morals - but at the end of the day they are single, and are free to do whatever they wish. If a person who is taken is prepared to cheat, that is their problem and their problem only. It's like people who chastised Helen Wood for nearly 'ruining' Wayne Rooney's marriage. No, **** that ****, she was paid to do a job by a taken man who willingly wanted to cheat, that is his problem and no one else's.

This culture of blaming the single person and quite often absolving the cheater of any blame has to stop. If you are single, you can do what you want. Sure, it's not morally right to go ahead and get with someone you know is taken, but you are still free to do that. The cheater does not. And is absolutely the only one deserving of any blame. At all.

[Niamh.]

I don't think a single person who voted No on that Poll would say that the married person isn't more to blame Jack.

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Jack_

But they are also single, and free to do as they wish. Seriously, I get so sick of seeing the single party in instances of cheating being blamed more than the actual person who cheated. Like if a guy cheated on his girlfriend with some girl they knew, the girl will direct all the blame at the 'home wrecking slut' and let her boyfriend off the hook. It's absolute nonsense.

I am not saying it's nice to knowingly get with someone you know is taken, it is certainly very nasty and leaves that person with questionable morals - but at the end of the day they are single, and are free to do whatever they wish. If a person who is taken is prepared to cheat, that is their problem and their problem only. It's like people who chastised Helen Wood for nearly 'ruining' Wayne Rooney's marriage. No, **** that ****, she was paid to do a job by a taken man who willingly wanted to cheat, that is his problem and no one else's.

This culture of blaming the single person and quite often absolving the cheater of any blame has to stop. If you are single, you can do what you want. Sure, it's not morally right to go ahead and get with someone you know is taken, but you are still free to do that. The cheater does not. And is absolutely the only one deserving of any blame. At all.

Sure, they're "free" to do as they wish, there's no law against it. That doesn't make it a morally decent thing to do. And I never said the single person should get all the blame, I specifically said they should be equally held accountable.

Sorry but I'm never going to agree with you that the "bit on the side" (lord knows why anybody would want to be that anyway) is completely undeserving of blame. It takes two to tango, and both of the two should face the responsibilites for hurting someone (because they both did).

Knowingly getting with a married person is, in my opinon, a terrible thing to do and that person is no better, in any way, than the actual cheater. I actually have no respect whatsoever for either party, and I feel no problem in saying that.

[Crimson Dynamo]

being unfaithful is not a good look and will eat at your soul and mark your life

is no one watching Doctor Foster?

Poor Suranne

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Lostie!

Sure, they're "free" to do as they wish, there's no law against it. That doesn't make it a morally decent thing to do. And I never said the single person should get all the blame, I specifically said they should be equally held accountable.

Sorry but I'm never going to agree with you that the "bit on the side" (lord knows why anybody would want to be that anyway) is completely undeserving of blame. It takes two to tango, and both of the two should face the responsibilites for hurting someone (because they both did).

Knowingly getting with a married person is, in my opinon, a terrible thing to do and that person is no better, in any way, than the actual cheater. I actually have no respect whatsoever for either party, and I feel no problem in saying that.

Of course it's not a morally decent thing to do, that still doesn't make it anywhere near on the same level as someone who is in a relationship, and willingly jeopardises that relationship by cheating. The single person has absolutely nothing to lose or risk themselves, and therefore the action they are taking is a lot more justifiable.

There is also a lot of sexism rooted in patriarchy with this issue. As I said, the term 'homewrecker' stems from that and is used by females to abuse the woman who got with their partner, when really they should be directing their anger straight at their partner. It's this underlying notion of 'well, boys will be boys!' and 'a padlock can only be opened by one key but a master key will open many padlocks' and it just has to stop. Obviously there are taken women who cheat too, but a lot of these attitudes stem from sexist beliefs like this. And that makes it even worse, and even more important that it is stopped.

Think that the single person deserves some blame all you want, on that I still disagree, but I absolutely refute the idea they deserve the same amount. One is single, one has put their own relationship at risk. The two are completely different situations.

[Daniel.]

I agree with Jack, I would never cheat on my partner with someone if I was in a relationship on the outside, but if I was single and we liked each other? Then yes, I would go for it..

[Jake.]

Jordan voting yes when he chastised Hazel for doing the same in BB14

[Daniel.]

Hazel didn't do anything wrong.

[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

Hazel didn't do anything wrong.

I wasn't saying she had

[Daniel.]

"Hazel did the same"

No she didn't, Daley told her he was single, from what I remember.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

Hazel didn't do anything wrong.

tbf Daley told her he was single although he wasn't overly convincing with that

[Daniel.]

Gina's obsession with Hazel was annoying af she's still better than hazel tho

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Jack_

Of course it's not a morally decent thing to do, that still doesn't make it anywhere near on the same level as someone who is in a relationship, and willingly jeopardises that relationship by cheating. The single person has absolutely nothing to lose or risk themselves, and therefore the action they are taking is a lot more justifiable.

Pursuing a relationship with a married person will never ever be "justifiable" to me. In any way. People can tell themselves they're doing nothing wrong because they're not the one in the relationship but that's just a load of twaddle to make themselves feel better about the horrible thing they're doing, in my eyes.

Originally Posted by Jack_

There is also a lot of sexism rooted in patriarchy with this issue. As I said, the term 'homewrecker' stems from that and is used by females to abuse the woman who got with their partner, when really they should be directing their anger straight at their partner. It's this underlying notion of 'well, boys will be boys!' and 'a padlock can only be opened by one key but a master key will open many padlocks' and it just has to stop. Obviously there are taken women who cheat too, but a lot of these attitudes stem from sexist beliefs like this. And that makes it even worse, and even more important that it is stopped.

Yeah but none of this applies to my stance on the subject. I'm happy to call a male "bit on the side" a homewrecker too.

Originally Posted by Jack_

Think that the single person deserves some blame all you want, on that I still disagree, but I absolutely refute the idea they deserve the same amount. One is single, one has put their own relationship at risk. The two are completely different situations.

Okay, so in the cases when an affair completely destroys a family, the "other person" isn't deserving of a single ounce of blame for that? None at all? Well I don't understand that notion whatsoever, since the affair was perpetuated by two people.

Quite frankly imo, the one thing that makes someone who pursues a relationship with a married person worse is one who refuses to accept their share of the blame. We'll have to agree to disagree since we're clearly on entirely opposite sides of the spectrum on this debate.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Hazel was lovely

Disgusting Daley and Gina were filth

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

I agree with Jack, I would never cheat on my partner with someone if I was in a relationship on the outside, but if I was single and we liked each other? Then yes, I would go for it..

Indeed, I actually find it repugnant on shows like these. I can totally understand liking someone in the house and all your emotions would be be heightened and accelerated, but at least wait until you get off a bloody TV show before you do anything.

I would have to seriously, seriously like someone before I considered getting with them because my conscience would be restraining me, even moreso on national television, but as a single person I would be totally free to do that. Not my problem.