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Originally Posted by Jack_

But they are also single, and free to do as they wish. Seriously, I get so sick of seeing the single party in instances of cheating being blamed more than the actual person who cheated. Like if a guy cheated on his girlfriend with some girl they knew, the girl will direct all the blame at the 'home wrecking slut' and let her boyfriend off the hook. It's absolute nonsense.

I am not saying it's nice to knowingly get with someone you know is taken, it is certainly very nasty and leaves that person with questionable morals - but at the end of the day they are single, and are free to do whatever they wish. If a person who is taken is prepared to cheat, that is their problem and their problem only. It's like people who chastised Helen Wood for nearly 'ruining' Wayne Rooney's marriage. No, **** that ****, she was paid to do a job by a taken man who willingly wanted to cheat, that is his problem and no one else's.

This culture of blaming the single person and quite often absolving the cheater of any blame has to stop. If you are single, you can do what you want. Sure, it's not morally right to go ahead and get with someone you know is taken, but you are still free to do that. The cheater does not. And is absolutely the only one deserving of any blame. At all.

Sure, they're "free" to do as they wish, there's no law against it. That doesn't make it a morally decent thing to do. And I never said the single person should get all the blame, I specifically said they should be equally held accountable.

Sorry but I'm never going to agree with you that the "bit on the side" (lord knows why anybody would want to be that anyway) is completely undeserving of blame. It takes two to tango, and both of the two should face the responsibilites for hurting someone (because they both did).

Knowingly getting with a married person is, in my opinon, a terrible thing to do and that person is no better, in any way, than the actual cheater. I actually have no respect whatsoever for either party, and I feel no problem in saying that.