[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

i got stomped on my head whenever i did throw a tantrum, and that made me cry a lot


not just slapped but a stomp from my mom or dad's fist, so now i know that i should behave, and count to 10 whenever i am tempted to throw a tantrum once again

lesson learned

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Yeah... My parents grew up when the belt / cane was still around and both have said that as you got older and started to "notice" and understand these things... It became really clear that some of the teachers genuinely got off on the whole thing. Very disturbing.

Anyway, on the general thread topic, no to physical punishment. It's unnecessary, ineffective and straight up lazy. When the punishment fits the crime it works much better, e.g. You and a friend trash the bedroom, you ain't doing anything else until it's back the way it was.

Tech bans are also pretty effective around here.

We also once made her go to a neighbour's door and apologise for her and her friend shouting "rude stuff" out of her bedroom window at her... She was mortified, it was brilliant. She bawled for half an hour solid about it before composing herself enough to actually do it. Hasn't so much as whispered out the window since .

Also I think I've mentioned before, my wife sits her down for "long talks". Looong talks. About morality and the sort of person she wants to be when she grows up. She HATES them . She gets so bored that her eyes practically gaze over. I think she'd rather be smacked. It works as a threat too; "Ahem, do we need to have a long chat about this?" - - "NO! Please no not that, I'll stop right now I promise!"

But yeah I agree with those methods 100%, turning the wifi off is another great one

Originally Posted by Alf

It all changed whilst I was in primary school. The incident I'm talking about happened when I first started school, so that would have been about 1982 or 83. I think coperal punishment was abolished round about 1988 time.

Yeah I would have been starting primary 82/83ish as well. I was 10 in 88 but maybe it was different here

[chuff me dizzy]

Kids need to learn right from wrong and how to behave early on in life or they end up brats ,my children used to get a tap ( A single tap ) on the backside if they did anything really wrong, I prefer a slap to ending up with some of the youths roaming the streets like we have now who were never taught right from wrong

[Crimson Dynamo]

No one used fck around in a class with a teacher that could draw the belt well

that was for sure

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

Kids need to learn right from wrong and how to behave early on in life or they end up brats ,my children used to get a tap ( A single tap ) on the backside if they did anything really wrong, I prefer a slap to ending up with some of the youths roaming the streets like we have now who were never taught right from wrong

No one is denying that, you can teach them how to behave without violence though.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Eddie.

Growing up in an Asian family unlike most/if not all of you, the beatings have made myself who I am today, so I agree that slapping is an appropriate punishment.

Though don't overuse it...

How do you know who you'd been if you hadn't been beaten?...

[Tom4784]

Resorting to violence as a form of punishment is a sign of a weak parent.

[bots]

at one time in primary school, i got 6 of the belt every day for about 2 weeks. My hands were so bruised my parents went to the school and kicked up hell.

In my day that was quite a common occurrence. Some teachers used line up the entire class and belt them

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

No one used fck around in a class with a teacher that could draw the belt well

that was for sure

I had many a blackboard rubber thrown at me in school Not for anything bad ,as if my Mam and Dad found out we had not behaved we would get into more trouble when we got home, unlike parents today who blame the school. teachers ,anyone but the monster they have created

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

No one is denying that, you can teach them how to behave without violence though.

A slap on the bum is hardly violence

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

No one is denying that, you can teach them how to behave without violence though.

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


sorted

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


sorted

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


sorted

are we talking about bullys now or what, I'm lost

[Crimson Dynamo]

and he drew on my schoolbag

[Crimson Dynamo]

felt tip

[Wizard.]

But try having your step-dad kick you in the balls as an 8-year-old because you told your mum that he brought her home flowers when it was meant to be a 'surprise'

[bots]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

felt tip

indelibly stamped on your memory

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

and he drew on my schoolbag

well a kid dealing with another kid bullying him school isn't a parent disciplining their kid

[user104658]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

if you have a kid who is pestering you at school every day and one day you smack them one so hard they lose a tooth and piss themselves in the playground


they wont bother you again

And no one else will either


sorted

Not that I necessarily think child on child violence is a great thing either, though it's pretty inevitable, but... It's a totally different situation

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Eddie.

It really all comes down to your family background on whether or not you consider beatings as an appropriate way to punish a child...

I guess.

Beatings....omg.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

A slap on the bum is hardly violence

umm what is it then?

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

felt tip

Felt tip is a swine to get out

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

umm what is it then?

Discipline, something sadly missing today

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Not that I necessarily think child on child violence is a great thing either, though it's pretty inevitable, but... It's a totally different situation

I was 37 at the time

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

I was 37 at the time

Stop it Im howling here