[user104658]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Oh cool, attack me. That's reasonable. Your experiences aren't universal, your relationships are different to mine but that doesn't mean I'm gonna make you out to be a liar just because your outlook doesn't line up with mine. What you've done is just try to undermine me personally instead of arguing against my opinion.

The chances of a condom breaking or not working in any way is critically low, if that did happen to me and whoever I was with at the time wanted to keep the baby then I'd accept it and do the best I can. I don't want babies but you can sure as hell bet I wouldn't demand she have an abortion or think that I was right to. Like I said before though, I only tend to enter relationships with people are on the same page as me when it comes to the big picture. It's a conversation I always have early on because it's a deal breaker if we don't agree.

Personally I don't see how it was an attack, I'm not making any judgement based on the extent of your male-female relationships and I said I know it's an overly personal question. However, I don't know of anyone - literally anyone - who has regularly (as in several times per week) been engaging in heterosexual "fertile" sex for a prolonged period of time, be that with a long term partner or several partners, who has not had at least one "pregnancy scare". Condom failure rates are critically low, sure. 98%+. Which means that if you've had sex 500+ times you are pretty much statistically certain to have had at least one failure.