[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

In what world though are the options always (or, really, EVER) 100% one, 100% the other, or square in the middle? I agree that Amber Heard seems like a nightmare, she may well have been the "worse" of the two in the relationship, but his actions are still his own.

I'm not saying he is 100% innocent, never have but it's clear that she holds more of the blame as the main abuser here. He shouldn't have lashed out, but I can't call him an abuser for doing so if he was being abused himself, which is fairly evident he was. I wouldn't call a woman in his position an abuser so it would be hypocritical of me to make out that he's as much of an abuser as she is.

Coercive and mental abuse is a terrible thing and Amber Heard is a whole bunch of red flags in that regard, with everything we know now. It doesn't make his actions right, it never will, but people who are abused can snap.