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Originally Posted by Ammi

...anyways, as ‘empathy’ has been mentioned and we’ve had this conversation before, TS....I understand that you’ve had a complete turnaround in your views on this related subject and that’s completely fine, obviously that there are things in life that can cause us to have those u turns of mindsets, it’s good that we’re open to that...but because you’ve had a very firm mindset of ‘both sides’...(...I know we’ve had this conversation before...)...you’re in the privileged position of also having an understanding of a now differing view, which was once an aligning view...and yet you show very little, if any tolerance or understanding for a mindset you yourself once had not so long ago...that to me shows a lack of ‘empathy’ that I would have expected and hoped to have been, to at least understand...as Remy has said...have a good Saturday....

My mindset on it changed through robust conversation and having my ideas challenged and my lack of understanding put under a spotlight, Ammi... as anything does... they didn't change via people pussy-footing around the issue or by people avoiding challenging things I had to say about it with a shrug and an "each to their own" because of some misplaced fear of "hurting someone's feelings" or "avoiding discomfort". If I point out something wrong that I think I see in someone's argument and that person thinks I've gotten it totally wrong then there's no need for them to feel hurt or uncomfortable. If I say something that makes someone feel hurt or uncomfortable then they should have a think about why.

I understand that you don't like conflict but frankly it's not really your place to shut it down when it's actually still within the realms of completely acceptable debate; no one is being personally attacked here, ideas are being challenged.