[user104658]

If it helps at all Redway, I did have a ponder with my wife about the discussion in the other thread, and we mutually agreed that if it was something very personal told in confidence we wouldn't share it IF there was no clear reason to share it (e.g. concern for the person's wellbeing) AND it was a mutual friend or someone we both had a personal connection with.

The example given was, if a friend of mine told me something that would affect his relationship in some way, and my wife was also friends with said-friend's wife, we'd keep that to ourselves because sharing it would put the other person in the awkward position (in this scenario, it would mean my wife would have to keep information from her friend that they would want to know, so it would be better if she just didn't know it).

And as I said in the other thread we'd never share anything that's legally confidential without "identifying details redacted".

So there are exceptions but for the mostpart I stand with what I said before... we discuss things, all sorts of things, that we've encountered independently out in the world, all the time. I don't know why that concept angers/frustrates you as much as it does.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Quantum Boy

If it helps at all Redway, I did have a ponder with my wife about the discussion in the other thread, and we mutually agreed that if it was something very personal told in confidence we wouldn't share it IF there was no clear reason to share it (e.g. concern for the person's wellbeing) AND it was a mutual friend or someone we both had a personal connection with.

The example given was, if a friend of mine told me something that would affect his relationship in some way, and my wife was also friends with said-friend's wife, we'd keep that to ourselves because sharing it would put the other person in the awkward position (in this scenario, it would mean my wife would have to keep information from her friend that they would want to know, so it would be better if she just didn't know it).

And as I said in the other thread we'd never share anything that's legally confidential without "identifying details redacted".

So there are exceptions but for the mostpart I stand with what I said before... we discuss things, all sorts of things, that we've encountered independently out in the world, all the time. I don't know why that concept angers/frustrates you as much as it does.

Ok here's another hypothetical scenario for you, what if a friend of yours had a very personal "male" issue that he wanted advice on from a close male friend but clearly he wouldn't want your wife knowing about it, would you tell her?