[bots]

if a friend shares something with you and asks you not to share that with your partner, they are placing an unreasonable expectation on you. If they don't want the information to spread, don't share it

[Redway]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

if a friend shares something with you and asks you not to share that with your partner, they are placing an unreasonable expectation on you. If they don't want the information to spread, don't share it

You seem to have a poor understanding of confidentiality anyway. Your argument for breaching it in bed is that your OH may find it engaging.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

if a friend shares something with you and asks you not to share that with your partner, they are placing an unreasonable expectation on you. If they don't want the information to spread, don't share it

No they're not, not unless it's something that could effect you or your partner in some way. If it's something personal to that friend and about their life, it's not at all unreasonable to ask a close friend to keep it to themselves. I would never expect Gav to break a confidence like that with his own friends just to tell me something about their life that doesn't effect me at all, and vice versa. There's not a lot of instances where something like that actually even happens but I really don't see any issue with this at all. The girlfriend bond is sacred too imo

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

No they're not, not unless it's something that could effect you or your partner in some way. If it's something personal to that friend and about their life, it's not at all unreasonable to ask a close friend to keep it to themselves. I would never expect Gav to break a confidence like that with his own friends just to tell me something about their life that doesn't effect me at all, and vice versa. There's not a lot of instances where something like that actually even happens but I really don't see any issue with this at all. The girlfriend bond is sacred too imo

Let’s make sure BOTS doesn’t volunteer for Samaritans or have a catalogue of friends who put their trust in them:

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Redway

Let’s make sure BOTS doesn’t volunteer for Samaritans or have a catalogue of friends who put their trust in them:

Honestly the Samaritans stuff I tend to agree with them on actually, as long as you're not revealing names I don't think it's wrong to discuss tough cases with your OH, they don't know them anyway (and you probably don't either) but I'd imagine as a volunteer for an organisation like that, you yourself probably need to talk about very difficult cases so you don't end up feeling depressed yourself

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Honestly the Samaritans stuff I tend to agree with them on actually, as long as you're not revealing names I don't think it's wrong to discuss tough cases with your OH, they don't know them anyway (and you probably don't either) but I'd imagine as a volunteer for an organisation like that, you yourself probably need to talk about very difficult cases so you don't end up feeling depressed yourself

The argument and policy is that you talk about it in-branch with other Samaritans and never take individual cases home but Soldier Boy’s argument is that he trusts his wife more than trainee volunteers and that you never really do know what people discuss in the privacy of their bedrooms. There’s no way to monitor that. And to be fair there isn’t.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Redway

The argument and policy is that you talk about it in-branch with other Samaritans and never take individual cases home but Soldier Boy’s argument is that he trusts his wife more than trainee volunteers and that you never really do know what people discuss in the privacy of their bedrooms. There’s no way to monitor that. And to be fair there isn’t.

I agree with him I don't see the harm unless you're giving out identifying information about the person involved

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree with him I don't see the harm unless you're giving out identifying information about the person involved

Team Leaders exist for that very reason. There’s so much in-branch support that you don’t really need to be going home to tell your OH details. That’s an intentional choice and a policy-breach, even without identifying details.

[bots]

Originally Posted by Redway

Let’s make sure BOTS doesn’t volunteer for Samaritans or have a catalogue of friends who put their trust in them:

i don't need smarmy put downs from you, i have a different opinion to you, learn to accept that as a reality and you will find life a lot easier to deal with

[Redway]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

i don't need smarmy put downs from you, i have a different opinion to you, learn to accept that as a reality and you will find life a lot easier to deal with

Well, you’re gonna get them anyway.

[Ammi]

…I do understand what Redway is saying in that …(…unlike sharing anything said with a colleague/team leader would be in terms of advice/support etc to help etc…maybe for themselves and that would be what the Samaritans offered to them…for them to talk about things they were finding difficult or just needed to talk about…?…but they may still speak to their partner as well without giving specifics because they’re the person who they place the highest trust in themselves…