[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Just one thing...and I do feel your coming from a fair place and your heart is in the right place too...my son never witnessed the abuse, I left his dad shortly after he was born, and any incidents were when he was being babysat by grandparents. He does know about it though. I explained it all to him when he was older, quite a lot older. And also why his dad was in jail (murder). So that's obviously been very traumatic. So you are correct in that way. I wanted him to have counselling but he never pursued it. Unfortunately for me. Maybe he will one day.

Sounds like you had a very lucky escape.

My point being, it's completely understandable why your son feels the way he does and why he hasn't wanted to see you. Which you know yourself.

Regardless, it sounds like things are moving in the right direction.

He needs to, in his own time, give you the chance to show him that you love him and want to be there for him.