[Captain.Remy]

I think it depends on the personality really. I mean, I am a bit feared to be honest because I tend to be rather cold and strong when I meet new people or in business situations. It's just how I come across with my looks too and it's rather confusing somehow, people never know if I'm serious or not.
I'd rather be hated than people having sympathy for me. That being said, being loved is a different thing. It is better to be loved by your family and friends because there is no point of them to be scared of you although they know what to expect if they cross me big time.

So yeah, there is no "which is better" because it could be used in completely different contexts.