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Originally Posted by angus58

I'll have a read of that book if I can get a copy because it does seem abusers all seem to use the same modus operandi: divide and conquer - separate and dominate. The key thing is cutting your victim off from any outside support.

I just look upon it now as a bad part of my life that is all in the past - and at the end of the day something good came out of the marriage - my children. The fact I can talk about those events so dispassionately just shows how far I've come It's almost like they happened to someone else.

That book if definitely worth a read. It's by Robert Hare. And yeah it's good you're able to look at that as a bad part of your life. Some aren't so lucky really, they dwell and it's ends up eating them inside, they just can't understand how someone is capable of those sort of actions without seeming remotely sorry.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Without-Cons...e=UTF8&s=books

There is that book, a few reviews too.