[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by happyland

Yeah.. that has a lot to do with my feelings probably.I can't stand to think of it actually.
But I'm very close to my mum too and can't bear the thought of her grieving over me and wondering why I would choose not to be in her life any more..
My friend died of cancer when we were 21 and I remember praying that I would outlive my mum so she would never have to face the devastation of losing a child and becoming the broken woman my friends mum turned into

well, the whole issue, like you said is very grey, everyone is in a different situation, with a different mind and different problems. I just think it's wrong to label every person that does this as selfish.