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Originally Posted by Dezzy

It's not wrong to be emotionally mature. The fact is you'd be ruining two people's chance at happiness because you are pissed off about the past and that ain't right. If I had a friend like that I'd be counting my blessings that they'd end the friendship. Obsessing over a past relationship to the point you'd fall out with the people closest to you is extremely unhealthy.

But then if your friend dates your ex and you don't agree with that in principle, then they're clearly not worthwhile having as a friend to you, so I don't think it's unhealthy at all. I'd never date a friend's ex, I think there's a cooling off period where that's definitely not okay, maybe like a year after they'd broken up then sure, because you're not still hung up over the relationship after that length of time (generally speaking.) I think it's wrong to be immature about it, but I certainly wouldn't pretend to be fine with my friend dating my ex if I wasn't over it, and personally speaking it takes me a couple of months to get over a romantic attachment at least, so yeah. An ex girlfriend of mine dumped me and then had a secret thing with a guy I used to be close friends with, I ended that friendship because he'd been chatting her up behind my back, she dumped me and they started up a thing together. There's no point in keeping friends who would back stab you in such a way, in my opinion, and if that makes me emotionally immature then so be it, I'm happy with my decision.