[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by sassysocks

I agree. I do, of course, believe the child's needs are paramount, I was just frustrated by one poster's dismissal of the importance of the mother's role and how much work she does looking after children and running a home, whilst obsessing only on the effects on fathers in some situations and seemingly implying the fathers' needs/feelings should be given priority over all else - it sounded very much like a control issue to me.

You were suggesting that in every instance the child is best suited with the mother, that is fundamentally not correct.
Nobody is obsessing on anything, it's important to try to see both sides of the coin.
The 1950s analogy of women in the home is very sweet but it doesn't translate in modern times, nobodys needs/feelings should be given priority except the children who deserve equal time with both parents.