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Originally Posted by Livia

If cheating somehow inadvertently kick-starts the "I'm not happy" discussion, and forgiveness and reconciliation follows, isn't it a mistake to think that everyone who cheats should leave the relationship? Some people go through a patch like that, both sides understand that it was stupid and a mistake and move on with their relationship.

Edit... kind of what Dezzy said. Soz... I didn't read yours till I posted this.

Well they should have the balls to kick start the "I'm not happy" discussion before jumping into someone else's bed. That's just cowardly.

One person leaving, saying they are no longer happy will surely bring everything up a lot sooner and then if they wanted to could then move onto discussion, forgiveness and reconciliation.