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Originally Posted by Josy

Gary butted in because he heard his name being mentioned, it's not a crime to want to know what was being said and I agree that constant butting in would be annoying but is there really a need for James to get so wound up about it? he's the only one that seems to get so irate..

And again no one says Gary should be exempt from any blame, you seem to mention that a lot when it's over exaggerating IMO there is plenty of people that support Gary and CAN admit his faults.

James goes on about being rude whilst being completely rude.

I think (the bolded part) is because he is the only one who really bothers with him and Gary is maddeningly annoying to be around. The others wisely stay away and get off scot free even though not helping or interacting could be seen as even more uncaring. I honestly think James likes him and wants to help but he isn't the best person to do it - he's too volatile and hot - headed.
I wish James would just distance himself and let us see how one of the others deals so closely with him. But they are happy to let James carry on even though they must see his temperament isn't suited to it. They all get off the hook.