[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Z

I don't really know to be honest, at first I thought it was an insecurity thing but now I think he just loves himself and is a bit of a poser

..I think you were right though, I think maybe some people are quite insecure and them feeling more secure if they get complimented etc doesn't seem such a bad thing really ..then there are probably just posers who are attention seeking...but it's hard to know why they would attention seek if they feel they look so great anyway....and then maybe some people just do it for 'LOLS' because it might be a funny pose etc...

..but then if the not confident people were insecure about their appearance then would they really put up selfies because as well as compliments, they would be leaving themselves open to criticism as well, which they really wouldn't want....?....hmmmm, I think this is all getting far to complicated .....there is probably no thought goes into it whatsoever, they're just twiddling with their phones/take a selfie/post it and don't even realise how many times they're doing that..to the point where they're driving people crazy with looking at them all the time.....

[Z]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I think you were right though, I think maybe some people are quite insecure and them feeling more secure if they get complimented etc doesn't seem such a bad thing really ..then there are probably just posers who are attention seeking...but it's hard to know why they would attention seek if they feel they look so great anyway....and then maybe some people just do it for 'LOLS' because it might be a funny pose etc...

..but then if the not confident people were insecure about their appearance then would they really put up selfies because as well as compliments, they would be leaving themselves open to criticism as well, which they really wouldn't want....?....hmmmm, I think this is all getting far to complicated .....there is probably no thought goes into it whatsoever, they're just twiddling with their phones/take a selfie/post it and don't even realise how many times they're doing that..to the point where they're driving people crazy with looking at them all the time.....

I think the bit in bold is what really happens, but I think the psychology behind it indicates that they're either massively insecure or overly secure in their appearance - but only when we're talking about people who do it all the time... I don't think there's anything wrong with the occasional selfie for compliments, it's nice to be complimented and sometimes you need a bit of validation and you don't always get it randomly so sometimes you have to go looking for it specifically. When it becomes a regular thing, that's when it's annoying to other people, I think.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Z

I think the bit in bold is what really happens, but I think the psychology behind it indicates that they're either massively insecure or overly secure in their appearance - but only when we're talking about people who do it all the time... I don't think there's anything wrong with the occasional selfie for compliments, it's nice to be complimented and sometimes you need a bit of validation and you don't always get it randomly so sometimes you have to go looking for it specifically. When it becomes a regular thing, that's when it's annoying to other people, I think.

I don't think that people who are massively insecure would actually post that many photos of themselves online though, if you genuinely thought you looked terrible in a picture why would you want everyone looking at it?

[Z]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I don't think that people who are massively insecure would actually post that many photos of themselves online though, if you genuinely thought you looked terrible in a picture why would you want everyone looking at it?

I think when I say insecure I mean more people who generally feel insecure, so they take lots of selfies and post the best ones online, on a regular basis, to fish for compliments in an attempt to convince themselves that they're good looking as a gap filling measure instead of actually dealing with their poor body image, if that makes sense. So it's not that they think the pictures are bad, it's that they think they themselves are bad and are posting filtered pictures of themselves from their best angles to try and get some form of validation to try and stop themselves from feeling so bad, but it's just a quick fix and it never works.

[Ammi]

..see, this is what I'm thinking as well, what Niamh said ..that if someone had a poor body image then would they be posting lots of selfies or pics of themselves because even it they did 'filter' the pics as you say, Z...their poor body image would still be there because they don't see what others see, anyway..?...it's more in their own thoughts/type thing so would they want to leave themselves open to criticism as we all know that the internet and social sites can be quite cruel..?..but would they even want to be 'seen' anyway..?...