[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

It's always the women that get told they're not having it all or that someone else is raising their child though, no one ever says that to men, it really pisses me off. I think that's what annoys me most. I understand what point you were making though and I agree that ideally a child should be raised by it's parents/family, it just annoys me that women are the bad guys or the ones accused of "wanting it all" and the dads are just being men

My brother took five years away from work when his children were small as his wife had the better paid job (by a long chalk), so he stayed home and she went back to work. Now they're at school she still has the high-flying career while my brother's work is local and allows him to be there for the children. It's worked out well for them. I think there will be much more of that in the future. I hope so.