[user104658]

Originally Posted by Cherie

As Kizzy says maybe it was the final straw?

Maybe, but that would suggest she has handled it better with other perves in the past, but this one was just one too many. That doesn't make it right. Nothing he said was aggressive, and it was one message not relentless pestering. The fact that OTHER people have done the same doesn't make it right for her to take it all out on this one. She could have handled it discreetly and still written about it in anger without naming and shaming one man.

Or, if she really felt it important to name and shame, and it was because of this sort of thing happening frequently, she should have named and shamed ALL of the men who got her to this point.

Basically... I don't see how it's fair or just for one person to take the flak for himself AND everyone else, with his face and name all over it, whilst the others who played just as big a part in getting her to breaking point (hypothetically, we don't even know if that's the case) sit at home safe in anonymity.

Also, we don't know if this man has sent similar messages to others in the past and been told that it's nice to be complimented. He might have messaged Livia the week before, and have been hoping for similar success.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Maybe, but that would suggest she has handled it better with other perves in the past, but this one was just one too many. That doesn't make it right. Nothing he said was aggressive, and it was one message not relentless pestering. The fact that OTHER people have done the same doesn't make it right for her to take it all out on this one. She could have handled it discreetly and still written about it in anger without naming and shaming one man.

Or, if she really felt it important to name and shame, and it was because of this sort of thing happening frequently, she should have named and shamed ALL of the men who got her to this point.

Basically... I don't see how it's fair or just for one person to take the flak for himself AND everyone else, with his face and name all over it, whilst the others who played just as big a part in getting her to breaking point (hypothetically, we don't even know if that's the case) sit at home safe in anonymity.

Also, we don't know if this man has sent similar messages to others in the past and been told that it's nice to be complimented. He might have messaged Livia the week before, and have been hoping for similar success.

maybe he has had success in the past, but maybe he has also been a bit of a pest, only she knows the full story, I can't see that she did anything wrong in naming him.