[Josy]

Originally Posted by Rob!

So why do you feel that way? What is sad about it?

Its sad that people are turning more and more towards technology for things like socialising, dating meeting people etc rather than go out and live life rather than sit staring at a screen (yes it can be good for people that have trouble going out etc which ive always said in similar threads) I also find peoples addictions and over use of social media to be another massive negative point of the internet.

Yes you can throw out statistics about the positive side of online dating but theres also negatives to match, like couples that meet online then marry are three times more likely to get divorced, 20 odd percent of couples that started dating online dont last a year and so on.

Of course for some it will work, fair play to them but IMO people should be out there, socialising, interacting and meeting people face to face, not getting excited at the thought of being matched with someone who enjoys the same tv show as they do.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Yeah i know all that marsh, doesnt change my opinion

Well your response insinuated a social meet up was different to dating.

I was correcting you not trying to change your opinion.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Well your response insinuated a social meet up was different to dating.

I was correcting you not trying to change your opinion.

Theres many variations of a social meet up marsh and yes some are different to dating, please keep that in mind the next time you attend a birthday party

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Theres many variations of a social meet up marsh and yes some are different to dating, please keep that in mind the next time you attend a birthday party

We're not discussing birthday parties, we're discussing arranging meet ups via DATING apps.

I don't know about you but I don't attend strangers birthday parties.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

We're not discussing birthday parties, we're discussing arranging meet ups via DATING apps.

I don't know about you but I don't attend strangers birthday parties.

Nice diversion tactic.

Make your mind up what it is your actually disagreeing with me about.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Nice diversion tactic.

Make your mind up what it is your actually disagreeing with me about.

Diversion from what?

You responded to my original post as though I was discussing meet ups with friends. I corrected you, any meet ups arranged via a dating app are for dating purposes. Obviously.

[Josy]

The wording in your reply to me suggests otherwise until of course I pointed what the thread was actually about then you changed your tune

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Not judgemental at all.

It isn't like the sad pervs in the chat rooms back in the 90s.

People use the apps to organise social meet ups.

And not always sexual meet ups.

[Niamh.]

I know what you mean Josy, it's a bit sad in general how apps and social media have taken over real life socialising I think. I see it with my kids as well, they go out with their friends a lot less then we would have at their age, they face time or snap chat or interact on the PS4 a lot more often.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I know what you mean Josy, it's a bit sad in general how apps and social media have taken over real life socialising I think. I see it with my kids as well, they go out with their friends a lot less then we would have at their age, they face time or snap chat or interact on the PS4 a lot more often.

Yep, its such an obvious difference now from years ago, just an example but some of my nieces and nephews will sit on their tablets or phones when its a lovely day outside when really they should be out enjoying it whilst they can

[Rob!]

Originally Posted by Josy

Its sad that people are turning more and more towards technology for things like socialising, dating meeting people etc rather than go out and live life rather than sit staring at a screen (yes it can be good for people that have trouble going out etc which ive always said in similar threads).

How can you say that as the admin of an internet forum? This whole place is where people with similar interests can gather and discuss and chat and make friends. How is it any different?

[Cal.]

I just label people I find attractive as my boyfriend irl anyway

I have about 20 boyfriends atm and none of them know they're in a relationship with me

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Rob!

How can you say that as the admin of an internet forum? This whole place is where people with similar interests can gather and discuss and chat and make friends. How is it any different?

Its completely different from dating sites and apps in the sense that none of us joined this forum to find a date or meet up with others, its a disussion forum....

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

How can you say that as the admin of an internet forum? This whole place is where people with similar interests can gather and discuss and chat and make friends. How is it any different?

I don't have the time or energy for anymore real life friends

[UserSince2005]

at the end of the day if i want to **** someone tonight it could be happening in 5 minutes. literally. london is cray.

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Cal.

I just label people I find attractive as my boyfriend irl anyway

I have about 20 boyfriends atm and none of them know they're in a relationship with me

OMG Someone else does this

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Yes, well it's not exactly an open minded opinion. In the digital age, the statistics of people who meet and stay together through these sort of apps are huge. It helps people who are less confident get to know people, or allowing folk to get in contact with people who are suitable for them who live a longer distance away. There's nothing sad about it.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

The wording in your reply to me suggests otherwise until of course I pointed what the thread was actually about then you changed your tune

How is that post not in the context of dating?

The differentiation between a sexual hookup/pervs in chat rooms in the 90s to meeting someone new in a social context?

YOU are the one who was confused, for no conceivable reason.

But whatever.

[Withano]

I don't even really understand how a date without an app would work really. Like how would you know that you liked each other pre-date? Or would you go to the date to find out if you like each other? That doesn't seem too time-efficient.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

How is that post not in the context of dating?

The differentiation between a sexual hookup/pervs in chat rooms in the 90s to meeting someone new in a social context?

YOU are the one who was confused, for no conceivable reason.

But whatever.

Lol its not my fault you got mixed up and lost track of what you were disagreeing with lmao so yeah whatever...

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Withano

I don't even really understand how a date without an app would work really. Like how would you know that you liked each other pre-date? Or would you go to the date to find out if you like each other? That doesn't seem too time-efficient.

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Lol its not my fault you got mixed up and lost track of what you were disagreeing with lmao do yeah whatever...

I haven't lost track?

Instead of baiting, actually explain what you're talking about.

You were the one to tell me my opinion wasn't about dating when it clearly was. Differentiating between an app that's rather seedy and all about casual sex and what that is about dating and finding a potential partner.

But, again, whatever.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Josy

Well thats where apps ruin the dating thing IMO, people used to go out to clubs pubs, social gatherings etc make eye contact, feel an attraction to someone, and take it from there, there was no rush but these days its too easy to not put any effort in because there will always be someone else when you swipe left.

Just as there is already a thousand other people in the bar. How is it any different?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Sullen Girl

other than meeting someone on a night out how do people meet anyway? like is it considered normal to bump into someone at tesco and ask them out on a date or

I think Josy was introduced to suitors by her papa at the village dance.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

I haven't lost track?

Instead of baiting, actually explain what you're talking about.

You were the one to tell me my opinion wasn't about dating when it clearly was. Differentiating between an app that's rather seedy and all about casual sex and what that is about dating and finding a potential partner.

But, again, whatever.

How am i baiting? Theres nothing to explain its all there to read, you worded your comment in a silly way whilst sarcastically accusing me of being judgemental then tried to backtrack.

Social meetups do not solely mean dating no matter how much you try to say they do, go google it.