[In the Drunk Tank]

There was an article on the BBC not long ago about a asexual girl in a relationship with someone who wasn't, he says it doesn't bother him that much but I dunno if a relationship like that can really be sustained

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-16552173

[ChristmasNeeve]

Closing this for a minute while I get rid of the offtopic comments

Autism tests and results have been moved here :

http://www.thisisbigbrother.com/foru...d.php?t=197531

[lostalex]

I think the idea of Asexuaity is interesting. I personally don't like labels on sexuality, i think sexuality is very fluid.

Homosexuality means you prefer sex with men, but i certainly don't want to have sex with all men or even most men, i'd say less than 1% of men i'd actually want to have sex with, so am i really homosexual? same for heterosexuals, or bisexuals, also there are all the "fetishes" feet, or bondage, or armpits, or furry. rough and violent, or soft and loving. There are so many variations and you're preference can change from day to day.

I've definitely been through periods of my life where the absolute last thing i'd ever want to do is have sex. Did that make me "asexual" during those times?

I think sexuality is very misunderstood, and in trying to understand it we try to create labels and groups and segregations. I don't think that's a particularly helpful or intelligent approach.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I think the idea of Asexuaity is interesting. I personally don't like labels on sexuality, i think sexuality is very fluid.

Homosexuality means you prefer sex with men, but i certainly don't want to have sex with all men or even most men, i'd say less than 1% of men i'd actually want to have sex with, so am i really homosexual? same for heterosexuals, or bisexuals, also there are all the "fetishes" feet, or bondage, or armpits, or furry. rough and violent, or soft and loving. There are so many variations and you're preference can change from day to day.

I've definitely been through periods of my life where the absolute last thing i'd ever want to do is have sex. Did that make me "asexual" during those times?

I think sexuality is very misunderstood, and in trying to understand it we try to create labels and groups and segregations. I don't think that's a particularly helpful or intelligent approach.

That's a great post Alex, definitely something to think about

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I think the idea of Asexuaity is interesting. I personally don't like labels on sexuality, i think sexuality is very fluid.

Homosexuality means you prefer sex with men, but i certainly don't want to have sex with all men or even most men, i'd say less than 1% of men i'd actually want to have sex with, so am i really homosexual? same for heterosexuals, or bisexuals, also there are all the "fetishes" feet, or bondage, or armpits, or furry. rough and violent, or soft and loving. There are so many variations and you're preference can change from day to day.

I've definitely been through periods of my life where the absolute last thing i'd ever want to do is have sex. Did that make me "asexual" during those times?

I think sexuality is very misunderstood, and in trying to understand it we try to create labels and groups and segregations. I don't think that's a particularly helpful or intelligent approach.

If you have sex drive and a desire for sex you are not asexual.
If you want to have sex with males only, and you are male, you are homosexual.
Different things can turn you on or off, and a healthy adult labido fluctuates at times, it does not make you asexual.
Labels can help sometimes, for instance if a young man questions why he sometimes masturbates, feels attracted but not sexually aroused by women and wants affection but not penetrative sex he can say im asexual. The thought that he is crazy or strange is then removed, its not so much labelling but understanding there are more diverse people sexually.

[Ninastar]

I think that you can fall in love with anyone, no matter their gender. I don't believe anyone is straight and I don't believe anyone is gay. I think that all these labels make it so much more complicated than it is. I wish everyone was pansexual, because there would be alot less hate imo.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I think that you can fall in love with anyone, no matter their gender. I don't believe anyone is straight and I don't believe anyone is gay. I think that all these labels make it so much more complicated than it is. I wish everyone was pansexual, because there would be alot less hate imo.

Is pansexual that you're attracted to the person rather than the sex of that person?

[The Human Santapede]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Is pansexual that you're attracted to the person rather than the sex of that person?

I have no idea. Why does everything nowadays have a label?

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by ukturtle

I have no idea. Why does everything nowadays have a label?

-googles-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality

Is that not the same as being Bisexual though?

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Is pansexual that you're attracted to the person rather than the sex of that person?

i think it means yur attracted to goats...

hello Mr Thomas!

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by lostalex

i think it means yur attracted to goats...

Or .........

Spoiler:

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Or .........

Spoiler:

mmm, "non-stick" i'll take that as a challenge

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Is pansexual that you're attracted to the person rather than the sex of that person?

yes, nothing to do with gender. A person is a person and they believe you can fall in love with anyone

I know it's different to bisexuality, but im not quite sure how. It just looks at a person rather than a gender.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

yes, nothing to do with gender. A person is a person and they believe you can fall in love with anyone

I know it's different to bisexuality, but im not quite sure how. It just looks at a person rather than a gender.

But wouldn't that apply to Bisexuals too?

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

But wouldn't that apply to Bisexuals too?

I think so, but I think with bisexuals, it's more of 'I like this about girls, and this about boys' but with pansexuals it's just like whatever, we're all just humans

I'm not too sure, but it does fascinate me

[Niall]

I feel like I'm the only one who has no trouble comprehending this one. I mean its fascinating sure, but if there are gay people, straight people, bi people and those that feel they should be the opposite gender, then we should have seen this one coming if you catch my drift? I don't get the shock and stigma around it. In fact, it would seem to me that this is the most (and I don't meant the following word in a derogatory sense) 'harmless' of sexualities.

I just think its more prevalent now because people are becoming more comfortable with expressing their sexual identity. Same thing with gays/bi/trans people.

It should get more media coverage and publicity though. It must be so hard for someone to progress through their teenage years and feel nothing towards anyone. The rarity of it must add to that too. :/

[thesheriff443]

i see there are a lot of would be shrinks!,we have many traits that make up our personalities,as we get older these may grow stronger or weaker,many aspects of life can influence who we are!,just as different music can chang our moods,

all i ask is that you keep an open mind!!!

[Roy Mars III]

Pansexual - attracted to male, female and transgendered
Bisexual - attracted to males and females

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Roy Mars III

Pansexual - attracted to male, female and transgendered
Bisexual - attracted to males and females

ah, ok, that makes more sense now

[Niall]

Pansexuals are where they care about the personality of someone and don't give two ****s about their gender. That's my understanding of it. The Wikipedia article said that they could be referred to as 'gender blind'.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Niall

Pansexuals are where they care about the personality of someone and don't give two ****s about their gender. That's my understanding of it. The Wikipedia article said that they could be referred to as 'gender blind'.

That is exactly the same as Bisexuals though

[Niall]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

That is exactly the same as Bisexuals though

No I mean like they don't really see the sexual side of things? They aren't exactly asexual as it were but they just see the personality. I don't know really I can appreciate that theyre two different things. But it's a bit convoluted.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niall

No I mean like they don't really see the sexual side of things? They aren't exactly asexual as it were but they just see the personality. I don't know really I can appreciate that theyre two different things. But it's a bit convoluted.

..Like an infatuation which isn't necessarily sexual?

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Niall

No I mean like they don't really see the sexual side of things? They aren't exactly asexual as it were but they just see the personality. I don't know really I can appreciate that theyre two different things. But it's a bit convoluted.

But if they have sex then they're the same as bisexuals

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

But if they have sex then they're the same as bisexuals

...I'm not sure...they may only have sex with one person..the one person they love..male or female..?
..but if they did have sex with more than one and they were different sexes..I suppose technically they would be