[Shaun]

Originally Posted by Novo

Why do you need to ask why?? it's obvious what they mean.. you'll probably say something like " Gay people can adopt " but it's never going to be the same as having your own grand kids..

lesbians - IVF
gay men - surrogacy.

next?

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Patrick, it wouldn't be very nice or considerate if any of your potential children were having sex upstairs whilst you can hear them downstairs.

The sexuality shouldn't come into that.

[CaraRawr]

No, I would still support them and as long as they're happy. Anyone who would be disappointed is a bit of a wanker tbh.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

It wouldn't change things for me really, they'd still be the same person.

This is an excellent comment. It says all that is right in just a few words.They'd still be the same person and if their parents really loved them why on earth should it make any difference.

[Lee.]

Initially I would be disappointed but a parents love is unconditional, so I'm sure it'd be something I'd get over pretty quickly.

I think I'd be more worried about how they would cope with it themselves.. I think it's down to personality. I think some kids take it in their stride, are confident and all together happy within themselves, whereas some feel different and become quite introverted whilst coming to terms with being gay... Thats what I would be most frightened of.

[Legend killer]

It wouldn't change they way i felt about he or she becuz there still the same person , but ovi i would feel a bit dissaopointed at first

[Niamh.]

I think I would be worried that they would have it harder than straight people and may have to face prejudice etc. but ultimately I love my kids and all I want is for them to be happy in life.

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Originally Posted by CaraRawr

No, I would still support them and as long as they're happy. Anyone who would be disappointed is a bit of a wanker tbh.

Comment of the thread, along with a couple others.

Way to go!!

*high five*

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Can I just ask people who said they'd be disappointed, disappointed about what?

Your own selfish reasons?

They can't change who they are, and if my mum or dad ever said they were disappointed in me because of who I am (sexuality) then I'd probably spit in both their faces and move to the other side of the country.

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by Thomas C

Can I just ask people who said they'd be disappointed, disappointed about what?

Your own selfish reasons?

They can't change who they are, and if my mum or dad ever said they were disappointed in me because of who I am (sexuality) then I'd probably spit in both their faces and move to the other side of the country.

I didn't mean I'd be disappointed in my child.. I'd be disappointed because of the grandchild thing and also be worried that they may experience prejudice/bullying/unhappiness whilst they accept themselves for what they are..

[fruit_cake]

It wouldn't bother me at all

[Tom]

I'd like to think I wouldn't be but i think i would

[Patrick]

Originally Posted by Phlip

Patrick, it's sexist if you'd allow your daughter to shag a girl in your house but not your son with a guy. That and the fact that you'd exclude your gay son from banter and stuff would make you a **** parent.

No it's not sexist, it's just my belief and how I feel.

And I already took back what I said about banter.

But yes, if I don't want my son doing stuff with other guys in my house it's up to me.

Originally Posted by Shaun

I am so ****ing tired of the X Factor .gifs. Why does everything I introduce to this site get turned to ****?

It was actually Jack that brought them to my attention but k

Originally Posted by cub

Again, why??

I explained twice.

[Stu]

To be honest anyone living in this utopian fairyland of 'anyone who gets bothered is a SICK MONSTER~!~!~!~' is absoloutely delusional.

Parents can have many initial worries or fears based on how they were raised or thorugh plain lack of knowledge. It doesn't instantly make them homophobic for christ sake so put your over eager pheremone imbalance back in the closet. These hysterical nitwits do the LGBT no favours.

Of course harbouring the view that you would let two girls do the dirty in your house but not two guys is utterly stupid.

[Tom]

Originally Posted by Stu

To be honest anyone living in this utopian fairyland of 'anyone who gets bothered is a SICK MONSTER~!~!~!~' is absoloutely delusional.

Parents can have many initial worries or fears based on how they were raised or thorugh plain lack of knowledge. It doesn't instantly make them homophobic for christ sake so put your over eager pheremone imbalance back in the closet. These hysterical nitwits do the LGBT no favours.

Of course harbouring the view that you would let two girls do the dirty in your house but not two guys is utterly stupid.

Thats just him trying his hardest to be macho man

[Stu]

Ooooh yeah!

[cub]

Originally Posted by Shaun

lesbians - IVF
gay men - surrogacy.

next?

1. Why would lebians need IVF? I know loads of gay women with kids (produced in the traditional way).

2. Gay men and surrogacy is an option but not the only one.

3. Gay men produce sperm like straight men.


Can I go back to the person that spoke of adoption and said it's 'not the same thing'. I was adopted. So was my brother. So was my cousin. My other cousins were natural offspring of my aunt and uncle. Everyone of us was brought up the same and loved equally. In that respect it WAS the same.

[Shaun]

I'm just making one suggestion, asshat, I'm not doing your ****ing family-planning

[cub]

Originally Posted by Shaun

I'm just making one suggestion, asshat, I'm not doing your ****ing family-planning

Just making one suggestion. Don't make personal remarks if you want to continue posting freely on this forum.

[30stone]

Originally Posted by CaraRawr

No, I would still support them and as long as they're happy. Anyone who would be disappointed is a bit of a wanker tbh.

Bit harsh dont you think?

[Kazanne]

I would be initially surprised,but ,they are still my babies and I love them no matter what,so as long as they were happy,that would be fine,incidently the gay friends I have are always up for a laugh (men and women)I love going out with them.

[InOne]

Originally Posted by cub

Just making one suggestion. Don't make personal remarks if you want to continue posting freely on this forum.

Jesus beef or what?

Some parents might be cos they may still have traditional views. The whole big wedding and all that, then the 2.4 kids. It's not the fact they wouldn't be able to have grand kids it's the way they come about.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niamhxo

I think I would be worried that they would have it harder than straight people and may have to face prejudice etc. but ultimately I love my kids and all I want is for them to be happy in life.

This - the only negative feelings I would have is as to whether it would create any homophobic predjudice from others. But I wouldn't care if they were gay and I have no longings to be a grandparent, but if they wanted children with their partner then that would be cool too

[Mr XcX]

Yes, I would be!!

[Crimson Dynamo]

I think a lot of how you bring your children up will decide this. It would be interesting to look at the parents of say 1000 gay people and compare notes. I would wager many similarities.

No one really wants their children to be gay, they deal with it if they have to.