[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Swan

That's actually really helpful. I've googled a million different things, read plenty of stories, but none like yours Vicky, so yes that's incredibly helpful. And you make perfect sense!

See, she does say she loves me, only a few days ago it was 'i love you, i only want you; it's always you'. But her actions really do say something different. She can't get enough of this guy, it's plain and simple and is beyond reasonable doubt now.

It's a massive head****!

OK this is going to come across a little brutal so I apologise in advance

I was not with anyone for the first one. So it didnt matter. However with the second, I was with someone I didnt love by that stage so it was not an issue. I am trying to put myself in the situation of having this happen when I was with someone I loved and I cannot see that the infatuation would go on? For the simple fact that if I was happy at the time I would not be even thinking about escaping to 'the fantasy'.

While I totally get its not about actually getting with that person..I would also not be impressed at all if a partner was doing this. I would accept that they didnt want to start something really with that person...but I would also think they must be unhappy with me to do it to start with

I kinda..ummed and ahhed about posting this. I genuinely am sorry if it comes across badly too but I kinda think honest opinions are better than 'being nice' when its a real life thing? IDK.