[Mokka]

Originally Posted by empire

women only marry men for one thing, money and status, but there is other things that men can't stand about there wives, they treat there husbands like little boys, and try to change them in there own way,

What a load of bull****

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Mokka

What a load of bull****

no need for foul language...what he said is often true, not always but often. Far far more woman than men marry for money and status.

[Mokka]

Originally Posted by the truth

no need for foul language...what he said is often true, not always but often. Far far more woman than men marry for money and status.

I stand behind my use of strong language ...

It is seldom true in normal everyday society. The majority of the world isn't living in some trumped up reality where women are some kind of barbie princesses looking for someone to pay their botox bill. ALL the women I know work as many hours or more as their husbands and bring in an equal share of the income, pay half the mortgage and almost all of the grocery bill, and take care of the lion share of household chores.

We don't just serve the bacon, we go out and raise the pig, slaughter it, bring it home and fry it in the pan.
welcome to not the 50's

[Ammi]

...so, in this scenario...why does there have to be marriage involved..and not just people choosing to have multiple sexual partners..?..

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...so, in this scenario...why does there have to be marriage involved..and not just people choosing to have multiple sexual partners..?..

This is what I always think when it comes to people who just can't stop themselves from cheating. Why bother entering a relationship in the first place?

Stay single and you can do and go wherever you please.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

This is what I always think when it comes to people who just can't stop themselves from cheating. Why bother entering a relationship in the first place?

Stay single and you can do and go wherever you please.

Serial cheats ARE serial cheats because they have NO real confidence in themselves and are deeply insecure with an unconscious or subconscious sense of worthlessness.

They NEED the reassurance of being able to seduce other women to feed their poor egos, but BECAUSE they have only superficial confidence, they also NEED a woman permanently in their lives as a fallback, a bolster for the times they fail in their quest to seduce other women.

MATURE men who have no such insecurities and who choose to seduce as many women as they can, remain single.

I do not deny the possibility that the most solid of marriages CAN become endangered because one of the partners falls unexpectedly in love with someone else.

I know my view might cause anger or controversy, but I believe that this CAN happen - it might be rare, but it can and has happened and even if the man is too weak to resist this 'feeling', he should at least be man enough to admit the truth to his partner and move out and on to be fair to the injured party.

I hate 'sharing' and cheating, so I'm afraid I do not subscribe to the OP hypothetical scenario.

I have always had a maxim which I still hold:

'Do Not Worry About Being The First Lover She's Had, Concern Yourself With Being Her Last'.

[Ammi]

...I guess that adults do have the luxury of making their own decisions and living with those decisions..but I've seen too many seriously damaged children who don't have that privilege and whose lives have fairly much been screwed from the off because of a parent only thinking about their own wants, to even take this thread seriously....

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Mokka

I stand behind my use of strong language ...

It is seldom true in normal everyday society. The majority of the world isn't living in some trumped up reality where women are some kind of barbie princesses looking for someone to pay their botox bill. ALL the women I know work as many hours or more as their husbands and bring in an equal share of the income, pay half the mortgage and almost all of the grocery bill, and take care of the lion share of household chores.

We don't just serve the bacon, we go out and raise the pig, slaughter it, bring it home and fry it in the pan.
welcome to not the 50's

Yep.

[Ammi]

...so I guess that if a wife is perfectly happy in doing all of the chores/raising their children etc and for her husband to have a mistress for the sexual part of their partnership etc...what she's really saying is..honey, my hoovering and mashing the children's potatoes is bringing it on for me ..sexually, you don't really offer anything I need or would enjoy...so, a 'mistress'...someone who didn't want the hoovering and mashed potatoes in their life but only sex, would they then, not want great sex../that would make sense...so why would they choose someone whose wife was quite happy doing her chores..because in having a mistress, he's running before he can walk really...


..obviously, that's taking out any betrayals and just assuming that this was all open and agreed by all involved....