[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

If this is real then you have some deeply unhealthy personal relationship issues and you need to get away from her permanently, and not consider entering into anything more than a very casual relationship with anyone until you have sorted through those issues.

I don't know what else to say on this one.

This is not usual. This is not what normal relationships look like. Maybe you really do think that this is what all women are like and so it's just something you have to work around? It's just NOT the truth, though. I get what your saying, she a hottie, she got dat gud gud, you don't want to give that up but... I personally say run and don't look back. You will meet someone eventually who you actually trust, and none of this will even be a consideration.

Originally Posted by smudgie

Putting it bluntly, you would be better off keeping her as a sort of friends with benefits, maybe a weekend shag etc.

, made me laugh, its all good advice truth, it's easy for us as we are not emotionally involved but I don't see what the rush is to get married, you got the housing thing covered by your solicitor, slow down don't be railroaded into a wedding when you are unsure of her long term intentions