[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by Withano

I dont know the answer to this question, but is cheating out of sexuality exploration as bad as cheating out of being slutty? I'm leaning towards no.

It still hurts to be cheated on, he could have explored when he was single.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Amy Jade

It still hurts to be cheated on, he could have explored when he was single.

It wouldnt hurt as much though right? Like girls would rather be cheated on by a gay guy with a man, than with a straight guy and a girl?

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Withano

It wouldnt hurt as much though right? Like girls would rather be cheated on by a gay guy with a man, than with a straight guy and a girl?

Um no

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Um no

Oh lol. I would have thought it would be less of a blow. I've not been on either side.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Withano

Oh lol. I would have thought it would be less of a blow. I've not been on either side.

Well I havent either but besides the betrayal of being cheated on you could also be left thinking your whole relationship was a lie and your b/f was possibly repulsed everytime you did anything

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

Maybe he's polyamorous like Jade.

[armand.kay]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

Maybe he's polyamorous like Jade.

It's not really cheating when you have consent

[Ant.]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

Maybe he's polyamorous like Jade.

I hope Raph comments "aww, do the members of the forum not like me? " when he comes back in 50 days, £100k richer <3

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Withano

It wouldnt hurt as much though right? Like girls would rather be cheated on by a gay guy with a man, than with a straight guy and a girl?

Not sure, still hurts I guess

[Amy Jade]

Originally Posted by Withano

It wouldnt hurt as much though right? Like girls would rather be cheated on by a gay guy with a man, than with a straight guy and a girl?

No. Being cheated on is horrific either way. I was a mess when I got cheated on, I blamed myself which in hindesight was so silly.

He must have very little humility if he can do that to a person 4 times.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Amy Jade

No. Being cheated on is horrific either way. I was a mess when I got cheated on, I blamed myself which in hindesight was so silly.

He must have very little humility if he can do that to a person 4 times.

Yeh, cant be an accident if you do it more than once really.

It just sounds like hes tried to surpress his sexuality perhaps? But inevitably caved. And that does sound slightly less douchey than other reasons for cheating imo.

It does make him a bit douchey, especially considering he cheated on a man with a man.... but not as douchey as the average serial cheat from my perspective.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Withano

Yeh, cant be an accident if you do it more than once really.

It just sounds like hes tried to surpress his sexuality perhaps? But inevitably caved. And that does sound slightly less douchey than other reasons for cheating imo.

It does make him a bit douchey, especially considering he cheated on a man with a man.... but not as douchey as the average serial cheat from my perspective.

See that last paragraph is why its not better than being cheated on with another girl cos in your eyes the only time it was bad was when he cheated on a guy so the other relationships werent "real" but they would have been for the girls so thats an extra hurt to deal with

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

See that last paragraph is why its not better than being cheated on with another girl cos in your eyes the only time it was bad was when he cheated on a guy so the other relationships werent "real" but they would have been for the girls so thats an extra hurt to deal with

Yeh.. I presumed they werent really meaningful relationships.. like hes gay.. how far can he literally go with a girl? But perhaps im wrong, maybe they were meaningful. Guess id need more info.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Withano

Yeh.. I presumed they werent really meaningful relationships.. like hes gay.. how far can he literally go with a girl? But perhaps im wrong, maybe they were meaningful. Guess id need more info.

people have been married for years and had kids and the whole lot and were gay though

Obviously that probably doesn't apply here as Raph is pretty young I'm sure that his relationships weren't that serious, i was more replying generally to whether it's better if your partner cheats with a man or woman.

Anyway either way it's not nice to be cheated on, just because a person turns out to be gay doesn't make it feel any better for the cheated on person

[Shaun]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

See that last paragraph is why its not better than being cheated on with another girl cos in your eyes the only time it was bad was when he cheated on a guy so the other relationships werent "real" but they would have been for the girls so thats an extra hurt to deal with

Yeah I agree with this. It's all fine and well excusing it by saying he was only 16 or whatever but it was a conscious decision and became a habit, it seems.

I wouldn't defend what he did, and am a bit baffled by him mentioning it to producers and not expecting them to drop it in an icebreaker task. Thankfully the housemates will have bigger arguments and seemed (oddly) sympathetic to him for being honest.

Just think certain members have been sitting with their hand on the trigger ever since the fanclub was made and he was leaked as a housemate. Digging up posts about Mollie, about being sweety_samy, about COL, about his BBUSA favourites, whatever - so don't act like you're all just discussing him on the show when you've already had posts deleted for screenshotting completely irrelevant stuff to BB18.

[Good King Glennceslas]

Originally Posted by Shaun

Yeah I agree with this. It's all fine and well excusing it by saying he was only 16 or whatever but it was a conscious decision and became a habit, it seems.

I wouldn't defend what he did, and am a bit baffled by him mentioning it to producers and not expecting them to drop it in an icebreaker task. Thankfully the housemates will have bigger arguments and seemed (oddly) sympathetic to him for being honest.

Just think certain members have been sitting with their hand on the trigger ever since the fanclub was made and he was leaked as a housemate. Digging up posts about Mollie, about being sweety_samy, about COL, about his BBUSA favourites, whatever - so don't act like you're all just discussing him on the show when you've already had posts deleted for screenshotting completely irrelevant stuff to BB18.

It's not even subtle either.