[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Dogeatdog

Not sure if my opinion would be valid here as I’m not married but if I were to tell someone a secret who was married, I would absolutely assume that they would tell their partner as well.

I think one key thing to a stable marriage is trust and the ability to confide in one another with the strictest confidence that it would not be discussed with anyone else other than each other.

However I would feel very betrayed if I were to confide in someone who was married, about something that was very sensitive to me and not to be discussed with anyone else, for that information to be spread to other people. I would feel very hurt and be unable to trust that person again.

I would like to think however that I’m a good judge of character and I’d think very carefully before I said such private information to someone especially if they were married. I think some couples whether they’re married or not, thrive on gossip and kinda get a kick out of making others feel miserable out of jealousy.

…I think that it’s one of those things that very much is individual to a couple …my OH would never expect me to or want me to share a personal confidence a friend had shared with me…he would have no interest in sharing it because he trusts that I would tell him anything that I felt he should know for whatever reason…and the same applies the other way round, I know that he would also share with me anything that he felt I should know but beyond that, friendship personal confidences aren’t something we share…but as I say, it’s very individual to a relationship and those partners who share those things are generally doing so because they know they’re sharing with a person of trust…