[Dogeatdog]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…I think that it’s one of those things that very much is individual to a couple …my OH would never expect me to or want me to share a personal confidence a friend had shared with me…he would have no interest in sharing it because he trusts that I would tell him anything that I felt he should know for whatever reason…and the same applies the other way round, I know that he would also share with me anything that he felt I should know but beyond that, friendship personal confidences aren’t something we share…but as I say, it’s very individual to a relationship and those partners who share those things are generally doing so because they know they’re sharing with a person of trust…

It can be quite complex but I’m just very wary of things I say to certain people and what I say to people whom I do and I don’t trust. I’m always on the assumption that if I say something to someone who is married, I’m not saying it to 1 person, I’m saying it to 2 people.

Like I say tho, some couples do thrive on jealousy. In this instance I wouldn’t say private things to these types of people because I would feel that they wouldn’t keep it between themselves and would use it against you. I would like to think that I’m clever enough to suss these people out but some people can be very devious and do things like this that you would never expect.