[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Dogeatdog

It can be quite complex but I’m just very wary of things I say to certain people and what I say to people whom I do and I don’t trust. I’m always on the assumption that if I say something to someone who is married, I’m not saying it to 1 person, I’m saying it to 2 people.

Like I say tho, some couples do thrive on jealousy. In this instance I wouldn’t say private things to these types of people because I would feel that they wouldn’t keep it between themselves and would use it against you. I would like to think that I’m clever enough to suss these people out but some people can be very devious and do things like this that you would never expect.

…I think being cautious is a good thing because once a confidence is given, it’s out there…you have no control over who that person tells…you just have to trust …and I think that we all or most of us feel that we’re good judges of character because if/when we bond and connect with people/when friendships are formed etc…?…we tend to see mainly the very positive attributes of those people…when the truth is that everyone has positive and negative attributes and characteristics…and when one of those negatives feels like a trust betrayal, that’s a very difficult thing and can be very damaging to a friendship…and in our friendships as well, there are different ‘roles’ of friends, I guess is a way to say it in that some friends can bring great joy to our lives in many different ways but not every friend is a confident…