[Maru]

Originally Posted by Garfie

I also wonder how many of those who judge Khaled so harshly have stopped to think about alternative explanations for his behaviour?

His early life experiences were in a country involved in conflict and he described growing up hearing bombings around him. As a young child, he must have been ultra-conscious of the dangers around him, alert to any sign of danger and fearful of how conflict could so easily escalate to a point of death and destruction. Therefore, it wouldn’t be unreasonable or irrational if he now feels the need to live with a sense of calm, stability and peace around him or why he has the urge to avoid confrontation and resolve conflict with others.

He's explained that he's had to move frequently after migrating and thus adapting/reintroducing himself to people over and over. So he's constantly facing reintegration. He said he finds that incredibly tiresome. So placing pins on his map early on of new people he's met in his life makes sense for doing basic navigation and I can see why that's a skill he's had to pick up for himself...

I think him and Ali are actually more similar than they realize and that results in a few problems for them...

Khaled has a strong sense of self and takes immense pride in his ability and capability of navigating complex social situations "properly". Ali is very much the same in that she's also constantly looking out for what other people's expectations of her will be and measuring herself up to those marks.

A serious negative... they both treat people and situations as challenges (ie puzzles) to solve. This can make for relationships with them maybe feeling too mechanical.

I can see the group growing really tired of it all with their constant nagging of themselves and others about what is going on in the heads of other HMs because of their gameplay style as Completionists in social situations. Because it's BB, this looks like it is influenced more by the game side, but I suspect this is actually just normal day-to-day for them

This house is different than past houses in some respects as there's big characters who hyper-fixate on the analysis of other people over and over with each new nugget of info. Add in the text group chat feels with the boys, the dressing room nature of the girl gossip (including Nathan & Dean) and it's like a social media version of Clue... "Who killed the bagel?"... etc

Both are bound to be nominated (again) soon. If I were in the same situation, I'd be really annoyed that they keep placing their own need to dig into other people's heads above others as it's probably overbearing for those who are just starting to figure out where they sit. I'm a viewer who loves a good analysis of house politics, but even I think it is getting tedious. Even for BB standards. One of them needs to pick up a grey rock for a friend and just learn to observe for a while without overanalyzing every single social cue... there's a point where it's just not that deep for me