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Originally Posted by AnnieK

Having spent 10 years dealing with being unable to have a child in my 20s and going through multiple fertility treatments, I will say that I was always going to explore every avenue to be able to carry my own child before exploring any other options? Does that make me selfish? Possibly but it was what I wanted to do. After everything failed (IUI, IVF and IVF with ICSI), i did start to explore adoption and the process looked brutal. Thankfully, I did manage to fall pregnant naturally after everything and so didn't need to explore further but as with everything, it should always be down to the individual on how they manage their journey to parenthood - whatever it looks like.

I find it very uncomfortable to judge others - especially having met so many people struggling with infertility and how that affected them.

I tried to get pregnant for 5 years and nothing, had tests and stuff..found a cyst on my ovary but nothing else. Got pregnant finally and had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. Then got pregnant again a month after that with Skye. Then James a few months after having Skye. l never found out what was wrong but thankfully it didn't matter anymore. I feel for anyone going through this and I disagree that 'just adopt' is a great answer. Sounds selfish but I wanted one that was biologically mine