[Ammi]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Having spent 10 years dealing with being unable to have a child in my 20s and going through multiple fertility treatments, I will say that I was always going to explore every avenue to be able to carry my own child before exploring any other options? Does that make me selfish? Possibly but it was what I wanted to do. After everything failed (IUI, IVF and IVF with ICSI), i did start to explore adoption and the process looked brutal. Thankfully, I did manage to fall pregnant naturally after everything and so didn't need to explore further but as with everything, it should always be down to the individual on how they manage their journey to parenthood - whatever it looks like.

I find it very uncomfortable to judge others - especially having met so many people struggling with infertility and how that affected them.

……you’re the person that I’ve most been thinking about in this conversation also…my son and his partner also had fertility treatment intervention as well to conceive…

…I think that it was Niamh that said this is such a layered and wider debate and it is…adopting a baby is something that isn’t alway possible/an option and interestingly in this season of BB we have Elsa who was adopted as a three year old and that older child can have very specific parenting requirements as their childhood trauma/memories can have such an impact on their behaviour…and it’s a bit of a circle situation, isn’t it ….because the very reason that they are open for adoption is often because of parenting that was unable to care for, so the importance of having adopted parenting that can cater for that child’s specific individual needs and issues, is another layer of complexity…

…..BBxX and Vesavius, you’re both two posters that I do love to see discussing these more complex and layered topics as well because you do both approach differently in your mindsets and thoughts but you both equally make very interesting and considered points…and that gets us all listening…(…and learning and thinking…)…which is the perfect thing in a talking forum such as this…..